Just to spitball apologetic-wise, not to argue: what about natural disasters that cause suffering to a great many people? Where is the blame for such to fall?
Blame really is beside the point - the fact is we (Christians) share in the worlds suffering in a fallen world, and the world - and we - benefit by our participation in that suffering. It really is that simple - but that does not make it any easier to live through.
“Blame really is beside the point”
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However, who is responsible was exactly the point of the question I posed. e.g. If a bunch of kids break a neighbor’s window it would matter to you if your kid was the one who threw the rock that broke it.
we benefit by our participation in that suffering...
that’s true, to a point; that point being until our sufferings lead to our untimely demises...after which benefits fall into the realm of theological boilerplate...