Will always hold the father somewhat responsible. when you divorce your disturbed wife and leave a troubled son to her tender mercies and care, marry a trophy wife, move far away, you still have paternal responsibilities. Lanza’s father never showed up or knew what was going on in that bizarre house. If he had simply visited, saw all the guns,and realized something was not quite right, he could have informed the police or social services and this tragedy could have been averted.
“Will always hold the father somewhat responsible. when you divorce your disturbed wife and leave a troubled son to her tender mercies and care”
You really blame him? He wanted away from those two nutjobs. Looks like they were two peas in a pod that should have been on the funny farm long time ago.
His father has said that he’d been trying to see him for years. At first, the visits were infrequent, then they stopped altogether. He has said that he regrets that he didn’t just show up at the arcades where the weirdo occasionally went to play video games.
Alas, divorce courts often award full custody to the mother solely as prejudicial default, and some mothers will do _anything_ to make the father’s continued involvement practically or pragmatically impossible (I’m watching one case up close now - uuuuuuugly; poor kid is just a club to beat dad with).
Yes, maybe he just fled the family for a new life.
And maybe he can’t do a d@mn thing to be involved.
Suffice to say: it only took 1 disturbed kid in a house with 1 gun to figure out how to access it and perpetrate slaughter - and without that gun, he likely would have figured out some other way (gasoline comes to mind).
IIRC, The guns were the mothers’s.