Posted on 09/15/2017 8:15:38 PM PDT by BJ1
If we get straight to the point and skip the BS that’s only used to soften the blow of painful facts, we can admit it’s hard to find a good man. Even if we take our standards, expectations, and delusional hopes off the table and really look at the situation for what it is, we can clearly see that we are not to blame for the lack of good men. No, we have society who can take the blame for this one.
Unfortunately, our culture has evolved in a way that has made finding a good man tough ― and they certainly don’t make them like they used to. So, why is it so damn hard to find an awesome guy who’s going to treat you right and not bail the first time temptation comes his way? Here are nine reasons.
1. Hookup culture has taken over. Although I would never knock hooking up, it has replaced dating and even relationships. Men don’t want to be with one woman only, if they have an entire buffet at their disposal.
2. People have too many options. While it’s good to have options, it can be bad when there are too many options. At any given moment a guy can sit down at a dating app and immediately have endless options of women from which to choose. Because of that, it’s hard for them to give one woman a shot for more than a hot minute.
3. Lots of guys are holding out for something “better.” It’s a sad thought, but in a world with so many options, people can become immersed in the idea that something better might be just around the corner. Because that’s the case, it’s hard to find a man who wants to commit when they’re thinking that the next woman they meet could be perfect ― whatever perfect is.
4. Marriage is becoming obsolete. Once upon a time, people couldn’t wait to get married. Although it was likely due to the fact that they would finally be able to have sex, the reality is that these days people are in no rush to get married, so therefore, they’re in no rush to get into a relationship or settle down. And if a guy’s friends aren’t married, he sure as hell won’t be the first one to do it.
5. Some men are intimidated by power. In comparison to the past few decades, women are more independent than ever. This success and power, for some reason, can be intimidating for some men who, perhaps, realize that they’ll never be the “man” his female partner is.
6. Technology has created distance. How can anyone possibly find a good man or anyone at all when we live in a world where technology rules and our most intimate relationships are with our iPhones? We can’t.
7. The “man-child” is a legitimate problem. A man-child is a just modern day term for a man who suffers from Peter Pan Syndrome: He does not want to grow up. If he grows up, he’d have to become responsible, get his act together, and even maybe find a girl and fall in love. Too many men just don’t want to do that.
8. Everyone has their baggage. No one is immune to having a rocky past, and sometimes that past can interfere with how that person moves forward ― if they move forward at all. Messy baggage can keep even the great guys in hiding for a long time.
9. Being phobic of commitment is accepted. We live in a world where being scared of commitment has simply become the norm. If a man doesn’t want to commit, people are rarely surprised. Since that’s the case, they’ll just keep on skipping out on commitment and sticking to hookup culture, because it’s so accepted.
No, I most certainly did not.
You’re a smart man.
“Hookup culture has taken over”
In other words, it’s a supply and demand problem. Abundant supply only stimulates demand up to a point.
After that, suppliers have to restrict excess provision by their competitors.
At one of my daughter’s colleges, supply appears limitless, and demand can’t keep up.
“they’re in no rush to get into a relationship”
For further discussion: ask your sons to define “a relationship”, then ask your daughters.
The word has completely different meanings to each.
Well your standards are your own of course. If I found a lady that had a small tattoo on her ankle or something that wouldn’t bother me... I guess as long as you can live with the results of your choice its all good...
Actually, there’s one thing I don’t believe was brought up. That of voice (accent, as well). I’ve seen some women that were stunning but with voices that would make you drive an icepick through your ear canal. Christina El Moussa comes to mind. I have very sensitive hearing and certain voices to me just can drive me to insanity.
What’s a good voice ? Emilia Clarke has one of the most beautiful voices I’ve ever heard. It also helps she is stunningly beautiful physically.
The main problem is over thinking the issue and unrealistic expectations
Yeah I have to agree to that... most are ok, but there are a few...lol.
Is that that Viva Las-Vegas Rat-Rod / Counter Culture show held in the spring?
Easter. For 20 years.
I’ve never been to it. It has an international draw.
It’s one of the things that tanked Hillary Clinton as a candidate... No one wanted to hear her harping screeching and cackling for 4-8 years.
I especially find a thick Chicago accent especially grating on a woman (curiously, my former fiancée was from there, but her accent was very mild).
Peter Pan syndrome is real, but its hardly the norm.
Hook up culture does make it harder for younger folks to seriously think about marriage... but any guy who’s fallen hard for a woman, will tell you, ease of access to alternatives doesn’t matter... When you fall hard, you fall hard.
Many “modern” women, just aren’t marriage material.
If a man doesn’t feel like he is needed, appreciated, or respected, he isn’t going to have any reason to think marriage, and “modern” women toss the fact they don’t “need” a man routinely, in their actions, thoughts and words.
Yes, you have a job and a life, good for you, but if your attitude is I don’t “NEED” a man, you aren’t going to find one... at least not one worth a damn. If you are just going to do your own thing, in spite of your “man’s” desires or requests... you aren’t marriage material.
So many modern women are so hung up on insane feminist dogma, they really are not remotely worth of marriage consideration.
Lord knows I can’t blame any guy who decides to find a bride from Asia these days, the simple understanding of the male psyche is missing from far too many “modern” women... Good men are passed over because they don’t subscribe to the idea a man should not be a man, but some vague asexual creature, and aren’t willing to pretend to be one.
There are still good women out there, but lord knows a lot of em are just messed up... and I don’t mean they are “hysterical women”.. I mean they are messed up because they don’t have the most basic understanding of men, because they have been fed a bunch of hogwash.
IMO...be careful with any relationship...but especially any women overseas...after all if they ‘really’ wanted to be in the US they’d be here. Where there’s a will there’s a way...other than finding a sugar daddy.
They all look like sticker’s on the skin over time..and not much of that either. Further the artists would do far better putting their wok on Harley’s and such....at least they’d be preserves far longer in their original shape.
I just don’t get it and never will....looks ridiculous.
That's right.....I worked for an Industry that if you interviewed with ‘any’ tats visible it was an immediate rejection from being considered no matter what your qualifications. On the other hand , in retail and restaurant industries you see them all the time!
What a catch...not.
It's okay when she does it, but a problem when others do.
No raindrop feels responsible for the flood.
Men don’t want to be robbed.
They do.
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