Posted on 09/15/2017 8:15:38 PM PDT by BJ1
If we get straight to the point and skip the BS thats only used to soften the blow of painful facts, we can admit its hard to find a good man. Even if we take our standards, expectations, and delusional hopes off the table and really look at the situation for what it is, we can clearly see that we are not to blame for the lack of good men. No, we have society who can take the blame for this one.
Unfortunately, our culture has evolved in a way that has made finding a good man tough ― and they certainly dont make them like they used to. So, why is it so damn hard to find an awesome guy whos going to treat you right and not bail the first time temptation comes his way? Here are nine reasons.
1. Hookup culture has taken over. Although I would never knock hooking up, it has replaced dating and even relationships. Men dont want to be with one woman only, if they have an entire buffet at their disposal.
2. People have too many options. While its good to have options, it can be bad when there are too many options. At any given moment a guy can sit down at a dating app and immediately have endless options of women from which to choose. Because of that, its hard for them to give one woman a shot for more than a hot minute.
3. Lots of guys are holding out for something better. Its a sad thought, but in a world with so many options, people can become immersed in the idea that something better might be just around the corner. Because thats the case, its hard to find a man who wants to commit when theyre thinking that the next woman they meet could be perfect ― whatever perfect is.
4. Marriage is becoming obsolete. Once upon a time, people couldnt wait to get married. Although it was likely due to the fact that they would finally be able to have sex, the reality is that these days people are in no rush to get married, so therefore, theyre in no rush to get into a relationship or settle down. And if a guys friends arent married, he sure as hell wont be the first one to do it.
5. Some men are intimidated by power. In comparison to the past few decades, women are more independent than ever. This success and power, for some reason, can be intimidating for some men who, perhaps, realize that theyll never be the man his female partner is.
6. Technology has created distance. How can anyone possibly find a good man or anyone at all when we live in a world where technology rules and our most intimate relationships are with our iPhones? We cant.
7. The man-child is a legitimate problem. A man-child is a just modern day term for a man who suffers from Peter Pan Syndrome: He does not want to grow up. If he grows up, hed have to become responsible, get his act together, and even maybe find a girl and fall in love. Too many men just dont want to do that.
8. Everyone has their baggage. No one is immune to having a rocky past, and sometimes that past can interfere with how that person moves forward ― if they move forward at all. Messy baggage can keep even the great guys in hiding for a long time.
9. Being phobic of commitment is accepted. We live in a world where being scared of commitment has simply become the norm. If a man doesnt want to commit, people are rarely surprised. Since thats the case, theyll just keep on skipping out on commitment and sticking to hookup culture, because its so accepted.
If I ever lost current wife of 17 years....Asia is where Id look.
Most of the military guys I work with have Asian wives. They’re in their late 40’s to high 50’s and still married. I tell my kid the same thing except he doesn’t wanna get married. To many crazy women in our family.
“When I was in my 20s I gave no thought to children at all.”
Had my first at 40. Nearing 50, I’ve the prospect of a third leaving the house when I’m 70.
Make ‘em early, kids. Time is passing faster than you think.
mine husband picked that bi8ch over me. He wouldn’t take her picture off his dresser, so I felt like she watching us have sex.
Uh, it is your bizarro brand of feminism that has shaped society. So, dearest, you are to blame.
What kind of cheeks? Slate-colored?
Regards,
You have mail.
Imagine watching one of your parents turn into an evil monster and no matter how hard you tried, you couldn’t stop it (short of killing them).
>A hard man is good to find.
My ex said this to me once.<
I wonder if she got that from reading Flannery O’Connor?
“I married a Canadian white women, does that count? “
There are exceptions to every rule...
you win. that was worse than me!!! Mine finally told her to back off.
“sorry I didnt mean to say a young Asian... younger than me probably but not that young.”
Understand...if you’re like most people here, you’re not going to be around (or at least not very useful) when the kids you have with your new Asian wife finish high school, maybe not even when they finish grade school...which obviously isn’t fair to the kids.
Had my two sons in my mid 30's and you're so correct!
I have a saying, it goes like this:
Life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer you get to the end, the faster it goes.
Your advice to have kids early is very sage indeed.
“Item 5 on her list is a big problem yes. Men dont want their wives to try to out-man them. Most women have understood this for thousands of years - until maybe the last 30 years or so.”
She’s confusing power and intimidation with being repulsed by obnoxious bitchiness.
Our feminazi society has made divorce an asset for the woman and marriage a liability for the man.
I think it was Ben Franklin that said:
Why I like women Over Forty...
They don't yell,
they don't tell,
they don't swell
and their grateful as hell... :)
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