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9 Reasons It’s So Hard to Find a Good Man
Bolde.com ^ | Amanda Chatel

Posted on 09/15/2017 8:15:38 PM PDT by BJ1

If we get straight to the point and skip the BS that’s only used to soften the blow of painful facts, we can admit it’s hard to find a good man. Even if we take our standards, expectations, and delusional hopes off the table and really look at the situation for what it is, we can clearly see that we are not to blame for the lack of good men. No, we have society who can take the blame for this one.

Unfortunately, our culture has evolved in a way that has made finding a good man tough ― and they certainly don’t make them like they used to. So, why is it so damn hard to find an awesome guy who’s going to treat you right and not bail the first time temptation comes his way? Here are nine reasons.

1. Hookup culture has taken over. Although I would never knock hooking up, it has replaced dating and even relationships. Men don’t want to be with one woman only, if they have an entire buffet at their disposal.

2. People have too many options. While it’s good to have options, it can be bad when there are too many options. At any given moment a guy can sit down at a dating app and immediately have endless options of women from which to choose. Because of that, it’s hard for them to give one woman a shot for more than a hot minute.

3. Lots of guys are holding out for something “better.” It’s a sad thought, but in a world with so many options, people can become immersed in the idea that something better might be just around the corner. Because that’s the case, it’s hard to find a man who wants to commit when they’re thinking that the next woman they meet could be perfect ― whatever perfect is.

4. Marriage is becoming obsolete. Once upon a time, people couldn’t wait to get married. Although it was likely due to the fact that they would finally be able to have sex, the reality is that these days people are in no rush to get married, so therefore, they’re in no rush to get into a relationship or settle down. And if a guy’s friends aren’t married, he sure as hell won’t be the first one to do it.

5. Some men are intimidated by power. In comparison to the past few decades, women are more independent than ever. This success and power, for some reason, can be intimidating for some men who, perhaps, realize that they’ll never be the “man” his female partner is.

6. Technology has created distance. How can anyone possibly find a good man or anyone at all when we live in a world where technology rules and our most intimate relationships are with our iPhones? We can’t.

7. The “man-child” is a legitimate problem. A man-child is a just modern day term for a man who suffers from Peter Pan Syndrome: He does not want to grow up. If he grows up, he’d have to become responsible, get his act together, and even maybe find a girl and fall in love. Too many men just don’t want to do that.

8. Everyone has their baggage. No one is immune to having a rocky past, and sometimes that past can interfere with how that person moves forward ― if they move forward at all. Messy baggage can keep even the great guys in hiding for a long time.

9. Being phobic of commitment is accepted. We live in a world where being scared of commitment has simply become the norm. If a man doesn’t want to commit, people are rarely surprised. Since that’s the case, they’ll just keep on skipping out on commitment and sticking to hookup culture, because it’s so accepted.


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To: wyowolf

If I ever lost current wife of 17 years....Asia is where I’d look.

Most of the military guys I work with have Asian wives. They’re in their late 40’s to high 50’s and still married. I tell my kid the same thing except he doesn’t wanna get married. To many crazy women in our family.


161 posted on 09/16/2017 5:17:18 AM PDT by gbaker
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To: Monterrosa-24

“When I was in my 20s I gave no thought to children at all.”

Had my first at 40. Nearing 50, I’ve the prospect of a third leaving the house when I’m 70.

Make ‘em early, kids. Time is passing faster than you think.


162 posted on 09/16/2017 5:35:13 AM PDT by ctdonath2 (It's not "white privilege", it's "Puritan work ethic". Behavior begets consequences.)
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To: ronniesgal

mine husband picked that bi8ch over me. He wouldn’t take her picture off his dresser, so I felt like she watching us have sex.


163 posted on 09/16/2017 5:39:37 AM PDT by yldstrk (My heroes have aklways been cowboys)
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To: BJ1
... we can clearly see that we are not to blame for the lack of good men. No, we have society who can take the blame for this one.

Uh, it is your bizarro brand of feminism that has shaped society. So, dearest, you are to blame.

164 posted on 09/16/2017 5:46:59 AM PDT by Skooz (Gabba Gabba we accept you we accept you one of us Gabba Gabba we accept you we accept you one of us)
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To: sparklite2
She had the slate cheeks of the Slavs and could be considered as attractive.

What kind of cheeks? Slate-colored?

Regards,

165 posted on 09/16/2017 5:51:47 AM PDT by alexander_busek (Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence.)
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To: BJ1
Although I would never knock hooking up, it has replaced dating and even relationships.

Well, I don't know if I qualify as a "great" guy, but I wouldn't be at all interested in a woman who is placidly accepts "hooking up".



A man-child is a just modern day term for a man who suffers from Peter Pan Syndrome

Peter Pan Syndrome is itself a modern term.
166 posted on 09/16/2017 5:58:49 AM PDT by Dr. Sivana (There is no salvation in politics.)
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To: BJ1
The Philippines is the only majority Catholic/Christian country in asia I think.

Both Vietnam and Korea have Christians in significant numbers. There are plenty of Koreans at the local Catholic church we sometimes attend.
167 posted on 09/16/2017 6:06:04 AM PDT by Dr. Sivana (There is no salvation in politics.)
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To: sparklite2
A friend of mine wanted to marry a Russian girl. Last I saw of him, he was supporting her family, and she was delaying coming over.

My uncle married a Russian woman. She came over and two years later she was completely uncooperative and was unwilling to accept a move. She was nice before that.
168 posted on 09/16/2017 6:08:57 AM PDT by Dr. Sivana (There is no salvation in politics.)
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To: yldstrk

You have mail.


169 posted on 09/16/2017 6:18:04 AM PDT by fieldmarshaldj (Je Suis Pepe)
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To: tbw2
5. Women are still hardwired to marry up. When you crowded guys out of college (60%+ female now), now you wonder where your equally educated mate is.You shoved him into the skilled trades or unemployment.

If I would have gone into skilled trades instead of studying chemistry, physics, math & pharmacology for 6 years, I'd already be retired, and have made essentially the same money with better benefits.
170 posted on 09/16/2017 6:18:21 AM PDT by farming pharmer (www.sterlingheightsreport.com)
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To: wyowolf

Imagine watching one of your parents turn into an evil monster and no matter how hard you tried, you couldn’t stop it (short of killing them).


171 posted on 09/16/2017 6:20:25 AM PDT by fieldmarshaldj (Je Suis Pepe)
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To: BobL
But I do know many people who made the mistake of marrying a white woman...

I married a Canadian white women, does that count?
172 posted on 09/16/2017 6:21:01 AM PDT by Dr. Sivana (There is no salvation in politics.)
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To: central_va

>A hard man is good to find.
— My ex said this to me once.<

I wonder if she got that from reading Flannery O’Connor?


173 posted on 09/16/2017 6:26:13 AM PDT by Darnright (If a million people say a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing. Anatole France)
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To: Dr. Sivana

“I married a Canadian white women, does that count? “

There are exceptions to every rule...


174 posted on 09/16/2017 6:30:28 AM PDT by BobL (In Honor of the NeverTrumpers, I declare myself as FR's first 'Imitation NeverTrumper')
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To: yldstrk

you win. that was worse than me!!! Mine finally told her to back off.


175 posted on 09/16/2017 6:31:35 AM PDT by ronniesgal (still winning (and a self satisfied Pr!ck, according to WMarshal))
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To: wyowolf

“sorry I didn’t mean to say a young Asian... younger than me probably but not that young.”

Understand...if you’re like most people here, you’re not going to be around (or at least not very useful) when the kids you have with your new Asian wife finish high school, maybe not even when they finish grade school...which obviously isn’t fair to the kids.


176 posted on 09/16/2017 6:33:59 AM PDT by BobL (In Honor of the NeverTrumpers, I declare myself as FR's first 'Imitation NeverTrumper')
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To: ctdonath2
Make ‘em early, kids. Time is passing faster than you think.

Had my two sons in my mid 30's and you're so correct!

I have a saying, it goes like this:

Life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer you get to the end, the faster it goes.

Your advice to have kids early is very sage indeed.

177 posted on 09/16/2017 6:38:02 AM PDT by usconservative (When The Ballot Box No Longer Counts, The Ammunition Box Does. (What's In Your Ammo Box?))
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To: faithhopecharity

“Item 5 on her list is a big problem yes. Men don’t want their wives to try to “out-man” them. Most women have understood this for thousands of years - until maybe the last 30 years or so.”

She’s confusing power and intimidation with being repulsed by obnoxious bitchiness.


178 posted on 09/16/2017 6:49:45 AM PDT by Bonemaker
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To: BJ1

Our feminazi society has made divorce an asset for the woman and marriage a liability for the man.


179 posted on 09/16/2017 6:53:48 AM PDT by deadrock
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To: shanover
"With very few exceptions,this list,replacing men with women could be easily called,It’s Just as Hard to Find a Good Woman."

I think it was Ben Franklin that said:

Why I like women Over Forty...

They don't yell,

they don't tell,

they don't swell

and their grateful as hell... :)

180 posted on 09/16/2017 7:03:26 AM PDT by unread (Joe McCarthy was right.......)
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