This rarely comes up into the public conversation. How does the mother of a ‘stopped pregnancy REALLY feel about what just happened to her, to her baby?”
It’s a very real need that should be learned about and validated. How could I have completely overlooked such a need? Like most adults, I just presumed the girl who had been ‘saved’ from having an unwanted baby would be as pleased about it as her advisers said they were.
Now, in cases of extreme deformity or a direct threat to the life of the mother, that is a very different story.
But most the time, we are not talking about that scenario.
Natural, spontaneous death hurts, but it's a clean and honest hurt, different from the pangs of conscience which can re-emerge throughout a lifetime.
Small deformities are often not diagnosed, or even fully discovered until after birth. You can't always tell from a scan whether a baby has something readily remediable (like a cleft lip/palate, a malformed outer ear, a club foot) or whether there are latent, more serious issues.
In any case, *newborns* of any race or condition are still the adoption "Gold Standard." There are waiting lists to adopt even Downs babies
Check this out, just two minutes, Best 2 minutes you'll spend today.
Have a good one!