[Mrs. Don-o]

So often if there is "extreme deformity" the anomalies are incompatible with life, and the baby either dies in-utero (miscarriage) or is born dead. This is dreadfully, terribly sad, but sadder than this is an abortion: because with abortion there is the added burden of guilt: "I killed him."

Natural, spontaneous death hurts, but it's a clean and honest hurt, different from the pangs of conscience which can re-emerge throughout a lifetime.

Small deformities are often not diagnosed, or even fully discovered until after birth. You can't always tell from a scan whether a baby has something readily remediable (like a cleft lip/palate, a malformed outer ear, a club foot) or whether there are latent, more serious issues.

In any case, *newborns* of any race or condition are still the adoption "Gold Standard." There are waiting lists to adopt even Downs babies

Check this out, just two minutes, Best 2 minutes you'll spend today.

Have a good one!

[lee martell]

Thank you for that video. I know people just like them speaking. It warms the heart to see them thrive and manage the bad days. That was my gift of the day.