Over 30 And Single? Are Your Standards Too High?

Huffington Post UK ^ | 07/12/2017 | Kenty Lichtenberg

[BJ1]

The film industry has messed with our relationship perceptions, would you agree? We are constantly expecting to have the perfect, fairy tale relationship - like Hollywood ruined real life relationships didn’t it? We expect to have Chuck and Blair or Allie and Noah love story. But nothing is further from that truth.

We love to imagine that you will traditionally fall in love or that you’ll randomly meet your perfect “other half” in the back of a limo. Sure enough, you will encounter your peak and low moments, but in essence you dream of finding that special soul mate you are supposed to be with, right? We should be able to find our soul mate and have our own fairy tale. Unfortunately, when we look around, even for celebrities, that’s not how real life works because we simply do not exist in a movie/novel/episode, although I am pretty sure we would love that!

Often times you would hear men complain and vent that the women of today are too demanding and that everything revolves around them. We don’t date certain guys because we’re afraid they aren’t our type, and their usual question following this statement is: but how do you know what your type is before you’ve even been on a real date? As a teenager I guess it was acceptable to make a list of the traits that your ideal guy should have, but now as an adult women, we must learn to be less judgmental and more objective...

[tbw2]

Reasons why so many women are 35+ and single but want to be married with children:
* Feminism led colleges to discriminate against men from admissions to funding. End result - more women graduates than men, while women want men of equal or higher educational level. If you won’t let them go to college, be alone or marry blue collar types.
* They were told their fertility and attractiveness were just as good at 40 as 20 and delayed having children because it was immoral to settle down and have kids at 25 if you’re educated. They delayed a partner search until they passed their prime and find the men interested in partners competing for younger women. If they’d searched a decade ago, they’d have found someone. Now, they are on the expiration shelf.
* Too high standards is an issue for some, leaving Mr. Good in search of a Mr. Perfect who doesn’t exist. The educational mismatch feminism created is certainly an issue for the 30 and under crowd.
* A mistaken belief per princess fairy tales and romance novels that if you divorce at 30 with or without children, you’re just as likely to find a savior as at 20. So they leave the guy who has been OK but isn’t perfect, ignoring their own flaws and contributions to the problems, and wait for a wonderful savior prince to rescue them ... and never comes.