The solutions to my mind have to be cultural. Children have to stop being considered a waste by-product of sex, or a nuisance outcome of sex. We have to value life.
No, I don’t support expanding the police state. It has to come from cultural changes and a big part of that is promoting what conservatives (I thought) promote which is personal responsibility for both parties.
So, what is your desired course of action? Are you in favor of modifying the incentive/disincentive structure that men and women face? Or just preaching at them? (And keep in mind that they probably won't listen to your preaching anyway).
You talk a lot about your desired end-point, but are not saying much about HOW you plan to get there.