So, what is your desired course of action? Are you in favor of modifying the incentive/disincentive structure that men and women face? Or just preaching at them? (And keep in mind that they probably won't listen to your preaching anyway).
You talk a lot about your desired end-point, but are not saying much about HOW you plan to get there.
There is no easy solution to this problem.
But the start has to be a recognition that the parents wishes are subordinate to the life they both created. The child’s well-being has to come first.
The ideal is not to create an unwanted child in the first place of course. That should be the main goal.
But failing that, once a child is created, the next best thing is for society to consider a new child a net good, not a “punishment” opportunity against the parents who created it. Men and women should both be responsible for the child ... and not just monetarily. That is the ideal. That is the goal to be strived for. Of course, we won’t always get there but that has to be the standard don’t you think? Of do we do away with standard just because we won’t ever meet them 100%?
And when it comes to procreation the emphasis should be on the welfare of the child, not the convenience of the parents. Ideally we would strive to create a culture where children are valued ... life is valued from conception to natural death.
Same at the other end of the spectrum. We don’t want a culture where when we are old our kids just throw us into a home and forget about us because we are inconvenient. Or euthanized because we are just too much trouble. Do we? I certainly don’t want that.
Increasingly, across the spectrum, we see life less and less valued. That can’t all be addressed with laws. A lot of it has to be a change in our values and attitudes about life.