I understand what you’re saying but want to respond to: “All I wanted her to do was make dinner, clean up the house and have enough energy and desire for sex.”
When woman also has to work outside the home she is no longer in that frame of mind where she can focus her attention/energy on all things domestic. At least, this is how it’s been for me. Then again, I have ADHD and brain wired a little differently such as unable to switch gears easily...anyways been married over 20 years and lucky to have my best friend to grow old with. But the issue is complex I know, social/cultural but also IMO our economy does not help one bit.
Speaking for myself, I’d rather live humble and not have the need for my wife to work to pay for the good life, as most see it. I did that with my first wife and women burning the candle at both ends is not good. Men are expected to pick up the slack, so you as the man come home from work and help clean up drive the kids around. It’s lousy all the way around in my view.
Of course with the majority of women working, it has helped to fuel the increase in property values. Women now compete for the good jobs, meaning some men have lost ground (blue collar) in the last 50 years. Law of unintended consequences is that women joining the work force, make it harder for other women to remain home makers. Well that’s how I see it.