Speaking for myself, I’d rather live humble and not have the need for my wife to work to pay for the good life, as most see it. I did that with my first wife and women burning the candle at both ends is not good. Men are expected to pick up the slack, so you as the man come home from work and help clean up drive the kids around. It’s lousy all the way around in my view.
Of course with the majority of women working, it has helped to fuel the increase in property values. Women now compete for the good jobs, meaning some men have lost ground (blue collar) in the last 50 years. Law of unintended consequences is that women joining the work force, make it harder for other women to remain home makers. Well that’s how I see it.
Yep. It all perpetuates a vicious cycle which cannot now be reversed. I believe the status quo of the American lower/middle class family isn’t conducive to strong family bonds, proper involved child rearing, and prompts underlying feelings of low level desperation/life passing one by. I work in an office where some of the positions are high stress and long hours, thankfully not my own, but I am subjected to the fallout, and you just see it turn people into assholes. I straight up want to tell this one already high strung young man who’s about to be married that his great paycheck is not worth what it is now, and will in long run do, to his mental/physical health. If my husband’s paycheck could provide a decent (not fancy) living I’d quit in a New York minute to stay home and support in other ways. Would love to have a cleaner house lol, cook more leisurely and maybe actually enjoy it, get friendlier with neighbors, be more involved in my kids, well now grandkids, lives etc.