I recognize that men are more visual creatures and honestly, women are also more attracted to good looking men as well.
The issue wasn’t that, however, but the mentality that some men have that they deserve a hot woman.
Or perhaps more accurately that they are too good to have to settle for a not hot woman, when they are nothing special to look at themselves. Do they not see that? The double standard they set up?
For women the more important part of sex is the emotional aspect. If a guy is basically ignoring her most of the time except when he wants sex or food, then he’s not going to get a warm reception in bed. She will just basically let it happen instead of actively participate because she feels she’s just being used.
Women know how important sex is to a man and feels used when a man only pays attention to her for that and not the rest of the time as a person who is more than a sex partner.
It takes effort on BOTH sides.
There is social status among men in having a hot wife/partner. There is no status in having a homely wife i.e. settling. Sorry but this is just reality. The older you get this means less and less but the reality still exists.