Franky when I comes to sex, generally speaking, women do not place a premium on it like men do. Secondly women can over look certain physical attractiveness short comings, turn off the lights an lay there and do nothing basically.
Men don't have that option. They have to "be into it" every time or it doesn't work. The more unattractive the female partner the more mental work a guy has to do the "get there". Sex becomes a job, a chore, instead of fun.
Marriage is supposed to be a lifetime thing. Young men are different from older men who value female attributes beyond the physical. Just like women are different from men when it comes to sex and relationships. You have to look at it from the other sides point of view.
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I recognize that men are more visual creatures and honestly, women are also more attracted to good looking men as well.
The issue wasn’t that, however, but the mentality that some men have that they deserve a hot woman.
Or perhaps more accurately that they are too good to have to settle for a not hot woman, when they are nothing special to look at themselves. Do they not see that? The double standard they set up?
For women the more important part of sex is the emotional aspect. If a guy is basically ignoring her most of the time except when he wants sex or food, then he’s not going to get a warm reception in bed. She will just basically let it happen instead of actively participate because she feels she’s just being used.
Women know how important sex is to a man and feels used when a man only pays attention to her for that and not the rest of the time as a person who is more than a sex partner.
It takes effort on BOTH sides.