Wow, I wonder how the child feels KNOWING that mommy wishes he/she was dead or non-existent. Especially touching must be the knowledge is that it would be for their mommies comfort level and having the newest electronic toys.
Very astute of you to point this out. Kids sense things regarding how parents and others take care of them. Has got to be very painful feeling that your mom hates you as a child. Maybe hate is too strong a word. Maybe scorns you for being a liability and chore to care for. That scorn will turn the child to hate the mom, which is just as bad.
As for us, we wanted kids, are very happy we had them, we love them and the same goes for our grandchildren. Nothing better than having our grandchildren jump into our arms and their parents arms and hug tightly, they feel the love we have for them and respond likewise. Never considered caring for them as just a chore, but a desired obligation. Some people who are against raising kids, I can't understand.
Seriously, kids know if the parents want them or not. Whether theynsay it with words, or other ways.