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“My son is 15 and already 6’ 0”, same as me. I guess I have to be aware of things.”

Height in men has the same affect on women as a woman’s breast size has on men.

A woman generously endowed will get at least one look from every man in the room; she may not get a second, but she will get noticed.

Conversely, a tall man will get at least one look from every woman in the room; he may not get a second, but he will get noticed.

The difference being that most men are fine with women who are less than generously endowed, while women have a deep seated need to “look up” to their man (both literally and figuratively).

Hence, women set unrealistic requirements. “Must be at least 6’ tall” when only 15% of men are 6 foot or taller. He must be better educated than her, when 60% of college grads are women.

The “man shortage” women complain is really a shortage of men that meet women’s unrealistic expectations.

Hypergamy. Spend a little time researching that word, and you’ll understand exactly why women set these unrealistic expectations for men.

BTW, tell your son that if he waits till he is 30 to get serious about getting married he will LITERALLY have women throwing themselves at him.

I am just shy of 6’, blessed with what most women find to be a handsome face, and I can attest, in most situations, particularly if I am dressed well, most women will give me a look, even though I am not someone with 6 pack abs, and well into middle age. I know that sounds a bit conceited, but it is true, so much so that when I am out with a group of friends, even the women in the group will comment about who has/is giving me a look.. Women are certainly more discrete about checking out a guy generally than men are about checking out a well endowed women, but its very clearly noticeable if you are paying attention.

I may not get a second look, because of the middle aged spare tire and male pattern baldness that comes with being middle aged and not spending hours a day in a gym, but I do get noticed.

I don’t think its my height, though that is the driving factor, friends of of mine as tall or taller than me do not get the same reactions, but being tall enough to be seen in a busy room, vs hidden within the crowd, certainly increases odds of being seen.

I do think women are generally genetically wired to find a protector... which is a negative against smaller men in general, but as I have stated elsewhere I have more than a few friends of short stature with gorgeous wives, some quite tall as well. So its NOT the end all to be short, but you will probably have to work harder than a bigger guy might to get somewhere and face more just flat out rejection out of the gate, but life isn’t fair... Just keep plugging away, eventually you’ll get somewhere with someone who is a better fit anyway than trying to force something with someone who is just writing you off out of the gate over something you can’t control anyway.