[Stayfree]

Sounds like Erma Bombeck on steroids...

[usconservative]

Women like this are why we men divorce.

Plain and simple.

(And it's worth every penny to get the hell away from them too!)

[Inspectorette]

Bump for later read.

[JoeProBono]

[Anitius Severinus Boethius]

First, I want to say this is a brutally honest piece that was probably very difficult to write, and I appreciate this.

Here is the crux of the problem that the writer and other women like her are experiencing:

Then again, I can’t take it out on my husband either. Not to his face. Not if I want to stay married.

I've seen this as I've worked with couples for a long time, and I hate to say it, but often this comes from the woman's side a LOT more than the man's side:

"I simply can't tell them that!"

The fact is that your spouse should be the ONE person you can be completely open and vulnerable to. Your spouse is the ONE person that you can share your frustrations, your failures, your anger, your complaints, your whines, your insecurities, and your fears with.

If you can't, then you are missing the core aspect of trust in your relationship, and that missing core, more than anything else, is what causes marital disintegration.

When I see a couple who keep secrets, bad talk each other to others, or start comparing their spouse to other people in a negative way, I know there are serious problems festering deep down.

Now an occasional comment born from frustration will inevitably happen, but when it is rare and followed (or preceded) with a declaration of love for the other person and an apology for needing to voice it then you can mark that off as incidental and not systemic. The systemic running down of the spouse, as described in this article, is sadly where many people are sometimes before the literal honeymoon ends.

[Graybeard58]

I help out with the house work. It was just last night, I put my own coffee cup in the dish washer.

[Utilizer]

And yet... somehow every mate I have ever known...

Has always taken pains to let his mates know what a lucky sod he is to have such a loving, attentive and caring girl in his life and how he is such an unworthy sod to have wound up with a wonderful girl like her...

And how the only thing of importance in his life was therefore to be careful about everything he did and to be able to someday come home to her and make her proud.

We men are such simple souls.

...

[wardaddy]

I can tell immediately when my wife has been getting girl power advice from her girlfriends about manipulate your husband 101

I’m like who is coaching you now honey....let me guess.....it’s super spoiled cotton plantation owners daughter who has never worked a day in her life and who’s biggest stress today was choosing handbags....Chanel or Celine....

And men getting advice from other similar minded men about handling problem wife...they’ll listen a bit but eventually they just want to know if she’s as good as she looks like she’d be in ...well you know what I mean.....like if it doesn’t work out can I call her......would you mind...your boys like me you know.....lol......it’s hysterical

Guys are dogs.....I drop dead and my adorable wife will have lots of offers of help from my rakish buds but they’ll have to get through the praetorian guard of my three male Cubs are nothing if not loyal to their daddy

But worse than men or wives playing husbands like they do....is how women treat each other....ruthless beyatches......it can get ugly over nothing

I’m talking 30-60 year old women.....horrible....my wife has few female close pals because of this

And pretty girls can picked on......horribly....I’ve seen my wife come home crying from some kids school event

Once at a pta dinner she approached a huge table to sit down and millenial blondie mom told her all 10 seats were saved...she mortified.....hell...id told her to kiss my ass.....but I bite my tongue cause it’s bad form to cross with another man’s wife

But if I ever get the chance.....

And this thing where gen X wives have to be heard and validated

This younger couple we know got divorced even with young kids

She is cute with beautiful eyes and SAHM......he just dumps her but pays her to stay home even divorced....he’s got somebody...like I said she ain’t chopper liver...I like her I admit....she is utterly heartbroken after 19 years and she’s 36 now

So what does she do?

She writes a blog....for the world to know every detail...,.lol....my wife and I are at the beach and wifey goes oh my God she is telling the world how pissed and hurt she is....

Like I said I’m on her side....he should NOT have banged her up three times and then dumped her....and .with two year old ....shed definitely get a not guilty here from the boys

But a blog to tell all.....

Man....my dads generation had it made when it came to girls

Old school.....garters....hose...slips....loyal...somewhat subservient....didn’t challenge everything and satisfied with a lot less coming out of the depression and WWII

I couldn’t live without them but man they can be challenging

Biggest mistake I ever made was letting Mrs wardaddy know I love her as much or in truth...more than she loves me....in one of my poetic moments

I gave away all my power in one weak second

Never do that....they got ya then....that moment they have been waiting for a lifetime like Sally Fields on Oscar nite

I’m an older dad with my last three...I guess it’s pretty obvious

[MayflowerMadam]

I guess the title of the thread is an invitation to trash women, and that’s the path that’s been taken. Give us a break. That door swings both ways.

[same old song]

Women like that - that’s why the divorce rate is so high.

I bet a lot of the women complaining about their husbands “not helping” are stay at home moms and their husbands work 40+ hours a week.