Having looked at identical twin studies, I surmise that this poor guy is living with an addiction that he hates and can’t break. An addiction to heroin is a terrible thing, but an addiction to a perversion of the most basic animal reality has to be crushing for the one who realizes what it is.
Having dealt in ministry with people like this, and seeing what they are living (often originally triggered by an illicit interaction with an authority figure), my heart goes out to him, along with a sense of helplessness, because there is no magic bullet to help him.
Very good insights. Thanks. Everyone gets hit by a traumatic event in childhood: bullying, abuse, death of a family pet, death of loving grandparents.
The effects of abuse are numerous: chemical dependencies, promiscuity, acting out, withdrawing.
The solution for all trauma is to review and discuss traumatic events with a therapist familiar with EMDR research.
Death does not heal the trauma.
Bottom line: we all need to discuss our unique traumas with a therapist using EMDR research. It is fun and healing. For example, if you associate a song with a death of family pet, then listen to the song in a new environment. Or if you associate an urge with the sight of someone of the same gender, then feel the urge in relation to a suitable person to make a family together. Simple in theory, complicated in practice.