What if your husband never wants to make love with you?
It’s a two way street...that being said, I have told my son to think very carefully before marrying. It really seems like men are always on the losing end of the proposition.
The world has changed; people live longer... the old rules don’t necessarily apply.
It seems like it, because we are. The divorce laws were largely setup in the 1940's through 1960's when women weren't largely in the workforce making a living and capable of supporting themselves. Those times have changed and as I've come to learn, the divorce laws in my state (Illinois) have changed greatly.
One example: If I'd divorced my wife four years ago, I'd expect to be paying "maintenance" after the divorce to her, the equivalent of 29% of my NET PAY for some years to come. It wouldn't matter if she had a job or not, the law said I had to pay it.
Now the law takes into account the fact that both our children are grown, there'll be no child support, she has a job, and with our assets being split down the middle she won't need maintenance from me.
That means my income remains mine (she gets $0/mo.) and my monthly bills go down (selling the house, I get to downsize and minimize my monthly bills, I no longer have to carry her on my health insurance, pay her car maintenance, her extensive monthly clothing bills, etc..)
She's yet to fully understand what's going to happen to her financially for the long term, but when she does it's gonna suck to be her.
That's on her for not wanting to reconcile, deal with her issues and be a full partner wife.
Depends on where you live. States like California leave most women far worse off if they had been stay at home moms
It’s a two way street...that being said, I have told my son to think very carefully before marrying. It really seems like men are always on the losing end of the proposition.
From this thread, you all seem to be saying happiness in marriage is an impossibility...
Full disclosure: I have one very happily married son with 2 kids, and another single son...
However, I am interested in your advice as to what to tell a 20-something girl.
The purpose of marriage is to fund the divorce industry.
Marriage is promoted and encouraged to the young so when the marriage fails, the divorce industry (lawyers, judges, the shrinks who serve as counselors advisors to the court) can reap the benefits.
It’s a self-sustaining multi-billion dollar industry.