My parents were married for 29 years. Had my mother not died (53, breast cancer) they might have eventually gotten divorced.
Unfortunately, I would have sided with my father. (I’m a woman, BTW.)
My mother had rages & mood swings. She was lose herself — got dangerous when she was mad. It was terrifying. My dad avoided coming home. My mother took it out on us, her kids.
My father wasn’t blameless. He might have been self-absorbed. But he was a good provider, and never violent. (Sarcastic at times, but never outright abusive.) He later remarried to a more gentle woman.
The issue here is mental illness. A person might be attracted to the other for looks or personality, then discover the werewolf later. While there probably is no such thing as an amicable divorce, spouses like these get particularly vengeful, because of their inherent character defect.
As in Proverbs: “Charm is vain, and beauty is empty.” Probably too many men make the mistake of falling for a woman’s external qualities — looks or personality — while overlooking the more important: character & temperament. It’s easy to hate women after a bitter experience.
I know I’ll be flamed into ashes here, but I’m of the opinion that the mentally ill should not get married. Even with medication, there are often behavioral, emotional, or cognitive issues.
No flames from me.
I agree 100%
Both of my parents had deep seated issues.
They were married for 17 years.
Neither of them should have ever gotten married.
EVER.
To anyone.
Dad had mommy issues.
Mom hates men.
Except those in the COUNTLESS romance novels she reads.
I’m tired of the anger, the victimhood, the self pity, the rage.
When I was younger, I thought it was mostly my dad.
As I’ve gotten older, I realize NEITHER of them were equipped to handle marriage. Both of them exacerbated each others problems.
Like pouring gasoline on a fire, in an attempt to drown out the flames.
Reasonable position.