Last year I learned another loss I had been through before but was much younger in my late 20's. My second wife passed and we'd been married just short of 30 years. I did a lot of talking to myself after that one. But I also focused on my mom as my only surviving sibling my sister passed a month before my wife did.
It takes time. No two persons grieve the same and what works for one person may make matters worse for another. It's been 14 months and some answers of what do I do next with my life I'm still looking for. Dad helped me through loosing my first wife. She died as she was getting in his van to get a ride with to her mothers on his way to work at 24 years old. I had already left for work.
This time I've had to work it out myself and help mom work through her grief. Short answer I guess is focus on the living as much as possible.
Well, first of all, my Mom died in 1996 of cancer. Dad got remarried and he was ripped off (if she ever steps foot in Illinois, she is wanted on multiple fraud charges. LOL!).
Second, and most importantly, what happened to your first wife? Was she in a car accident in your Dad’s van? I am so sorry....It sounds like you have been through horrific tragedy.
Yes, I am sad...but is in the normal course of things. I am 53; my dad was 81.
I did not lose a spouse in the prime of life. That is much more painful, because it is not right.
Sending prayers your way, FRiend. Take care.
Julie.