[proud American in Canada]

Well, first of all, my Mom died in 1996 of cancer. Dad got remarried and he was ripped off (if she ever steps foot in Illinois, she is wanted on multiple fraud charges. LOL!).

Second, and most importantly, what happened to your first wife? Was she in a car accident in your Dad’s van? I am so sorry....It sounds like you have been through horrific tragedy.

Yes, I am sad...but is in the normal course of things. I am 53; my dad was 81.

I did not lose a spouse in the prime of life. That is much more painful, because it is not right.

Sending prayers your way, FRiend. Take care.

Julie.

[cva66snipe]

My first wife had sprained her ankle a couple days earlier and was crutches. She had a massive heart attack getting in the van. Dad tried CPR but she was gone. Where we live an ambulance was 20 minutes out. But they couldn't have done anything either.

After she passed I met another woman at work after I took a transfer. We were dating and on Labor Day 1985 she became a quadriplegic right in front of me and her two girls. The cause was a mystery for a year Transverse Mylietus. In the meantime while she was in the hospital for six months we married. She died of C-5 level quadriplegia complications causing COPD and pneumonia.

I should have read you post closer I would have realized your mom passed sorry about that.

Find someone you can trust to talk too a minister or friend if you need too. BTW the beast as I call it likes to hit when you're tired and things look a lot worse. Expect things like having dreams about him being alive and things like that.

I'm sorry you lost your dad. My mom is still alive and she's 85 now. I made my dad a promise I'd look out after her {not that he had to ask}.

[patriot08]

I’m so sorry for your loss. Prayers..