Bingo.
A white man with a black woman is “stealing” a woman from the black community, and making black men look like they “aren’t good enough”. Black men do not like this at all.
However, if a black man couples with a white woman, and some white man says, “That’s not OK”, then the white man is a racist.
It’s a long-standing double standard.
Back in the sixties, I worked in a professional photo lab. We made enlargements of many, many weddings. Interracial marriages were very rare. When you’d see one of a white guy with a black bride, the white guy always looked like a loser who married up. Any weddings you saw of a black groom and white bride, the bride was inevitably overweight and plain.
We used to hate printing black weddings entirely. In order to show sufficient detail in the bridal dress, we had to make the print dark enough to do that, which made the bride and the wedding party look a lot darker than they thought they were. So, we’d pull back the exposure to lighten the faces and lose detail in the dress. There just wasn’t enough contrast control possible to make everyone happy. We hated to see an order come in from a black wedding.
If you don’t want to date a black woman the race charge is tossed at you. If you do, it’s still racist. Can’t win, best to stay away.