Why do these women’s philosophies bring to mind a Used Car Lot, with a big sign out front,
KLUNKERS FOR SALE - CHEAP!
All find and dandy while they’re in their 20s, like most things.
Then they hit their 30s and things start to slow down.
Then they hit their 40s and their creeping along in a granny gear.
All the while, the guys are still hitting the 20 year olds.
The man who didn't marry her is lucky, as she only thinks of marriage as a parasitical financial arrangement.
My daughter is 30 earns a six figure salary and so wants to get married. But she is so tired of waiting around to meet a man that wants to get married like her, that she is quitting her job in 2 weeks and going to SE Asia for 6 months or more.
Women are single because women have emasculated men to the point they are no longer manly.
We also have an entitled society of both men and women that refuse to accept gender roles within their respective relationships.
“I think it’s a response to the large obsolescence of marriage as an institution for women. We don’t need to be economically or socially dependent on men.”
Yes, and Abortions have become an Institution.
http://www.numberofabortions.com/
Both are true. Millennial are the first generation where most of them did not have a stay at home mom. They don’t know how wonderful a family works with one person stoking the home fires, with one person really focusing on the family and their needs and even their entertainment.
And both girls don’t see men as necessary for survival and boys don’t see staying true to one woman a good deal any more.
When you fix something that wasn’t broken, you ruin it. I don’t know what these coming generations will do in order to raise children to be strong secure individuals. They will all spend more time with poorly paid teachers and nannies than is good for our kind of society.
Had another article very similar to this one lately.
Let’s face it. Women make lousy men, and vice-versa.
(I’m probably going to get into trouble for this...)
I don’t know how knowing that your potential wife-to-be has this “history” that is very trying on a relationship. I’m going to get a little personal, but my wife “dated” a lot more than I did before we got together, and I had to mentally work through that. It really bothered me that she was with that many guys. So, that’s on me, but I think a lot of guys are like that, we get our little egos hurt. We want to be the “only one” in our women’s lives.
Or, maybe that’s just me, but I talk to other guys who feel the same way, who get hung up on women’s track records. I feel sorry for young guys today who have these women who have been ridden more than a racehorse.
College educated women want to marry college educated men.
But feminist bias in admissions and scholarships has led to roughly 60% of college graduates being women, 40% male.
That means a third of the women are single or marry guys without college degrees, and few are willing to marry “down” by their opinion (though a blue collar guy may earn more than a dude with a useless degree).
It’s always important to first address the biological aspects of sexuality. Some important axioms:
1) The purpose of marriage is to procreate and raise children. If marriage is done for reasons other than this, it is superfluous. This does not stop people from marrying.
2) A surprisingly large percentage of people are, for many reasons, either incapable, unwilling, defective, or reject the notion of marriage. However many cling to the desire to procreate, which is a very bad idea outside of marriage, and likely damns their offspring to inferior and criminal lives. Marriage provides enormous advantages to children.
3) At an income plateau unique to a particular country, suddenly there is a marked decrease in birthrate from rapid growth to sustainable (about 2.1 to 2.3 children per family.) That nation’s government and prevailing culture cannot usually raise that birthrate even marginally, but they can drive it further down by putting increasing numbers of demands on the backs of parents.
Everything from materialistic demands, educational demands, student loans, inflation, family size limiting morality, and cultural propaganda work to strongly reduce family size to even 1 child per family or less.
4) Despite the obviously frivolous notion of the “supermom”, women can either work, or they can raise children. Otherwise they are expected to perform two full time jobs. And this was a terrible trap.
With “women’s liberation”, women wanted an opportunity to succeed on their own merits. Many also saw the benefits of doubling the family income to increase their families’ prosperity. These were legitimate ends.
However, with increased prosperity, government kept raising taxes, to the point that one spouse was working mostly to pay taxes, their family not benefiting from their labor; in effect, women gave up raising their families to become slaves to the government.
To worship the economic god of “productivity”, it was demanded of women that they forsake their children’s upbringing. Government, of course, promised to raise their children for them. Since, “It takes a socialist village, etc.”
5) The aforementioned student loan debt is the last, and one of the most crippling attacks against marriage, children, and prosperity ever created. This is because it is “a thief of time.”
When our parents and grandparents graduated college, most of them were flat broke. But everything they earned thereafter was theirs, outside of taxes. Thus they could plan, to get married, have children, upgrade their living quarters, raise their kids, plan for their retirement, etc.
Student loan debt fouled that up horribly. By graduating with say $100,000 in debt, workers lose perhaps a decade of their more productive and fertile years. Credit check companies are now advising customers to check their potential spouses credit rating before getting married, as they will assume their debt as well.
It also erases years from the best about 20 year window of opportunity to have and raise children.
“Well, *I can afford* to get married at 30, and if we wait to have kids until we are 40, maybe we can mortgage a house when we are 50.”
This is a demographic disaster.
Starting from the start, student loans that are not backed with 100% (or more) collateral must end. If that means just a fraction of the college graduates we have today, that is more important than creating vast debt among them.
It is far better to be a garage mechanic who starts earning $32,000 a year at age 18, than to be a physician who theoretically makes $120,000 a year, but can’t have much of that money until they are 35 years old.
Eventually, they want kids. They all do.
At bottom, they are narcissists, and they need someone in the house to worship them. Men won’t do it. Kids have no choice.
So, they adopt, or they go in-vitro. They have their kid, and the poor thing grows up so screwed up they don’t know what normal looks like.
However, there are women who are single that tried, and the guy was an overgrown video game enthusiast who didn’t get the whole daddy thing.
Bottom line - take Church out of the marriage equation and the institution falls apart.
Nobody has said it yet, but without God, matrimony is just a corporate structure; a financial arrangement.
I started dating my wife in 1988 just before I turned 16. I graduated in 1990 and we were married in 1992 just before I turned 20.
I never thought about a strategy to stay married or paid any attention to what everyone else was doing. We had a real rough spot about two years into our marriage but divorce was not an option to me. I am so thankful because my marriage now is better than anything I ever imagined before.
God’s design for marriage and family is best. I suggest reading the Bible and know what He says about it.
Now women can support themselves, and pay into a 401K. Thus, they can be very picky, and have the option of staying single.
Honestly, most women have been ruined by feminist dogma, and don’t know how to relate in the most basic way with men... they are so busy being offended by every little thing, or worried about proving they don’t need anyone they are literally impossible life partners.
That’s my take.
I know a mid-20s bartender who is getting her teaching degree from the nearby college. She is shacked up with an older man who has a daughter from a previous marriage. She’s incredibly happy (although has a few issues with her boyfriend’s ex) and when folks ask her why she hasn’t married she says she’s happy now and doesn’t want to do anything to screw it up.
I see her point but I wonder if that will change once she gets into her 30s.
Spoken like a complete millennial ignoramus. It is greatly responsible for the lack of long term commitment.
"I know lots of single men," Cara, 26, a resident of Brooklyn, New York, told Mic. "It's just... most are of little or no interest to me as anything other than a hookup."
And I can guarantee you, those men who you easily hook up with, think that you are certainly no prize (low SMV) and not worth long term commitment. Who wants to marry a woman with a history like that?
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