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Long drawn out process for nursing home placement has finally come close to happening soon. Endless nights of wandering, biting, screaming and the inability to keep private duty nursing care consistent (many just quit, instead of showing up). there have been many on FR whom have kept the situation in prayer. after caring for my mother at home for the last 4 years, the time has come for the placement of an elderly mother into the nursing home. By mid September I will return back to working in my business, returning to pastoral duties and continuing on in running for mayor
1 posted on 07/29/2015 3:04:22 PM PDT by hondact200
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It couldn’t have been an easy decision. Continued prayers for you and your mother.


2 posted on 07/29/2015 3:06:27 PM PDT by Kartographer ("We mutually pledge to each other our lives, our fortunes and our sacred honor.")
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I understand. My Mom is 95. She still lives at home with me... but life can be difficult


3 posted on 07/29/2015 3:08:53 PM PDT by UMCRevMom@aol.com
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We have been where you are, it’s so painful, but there does come a time when it’s necessary to turn your mother’s care over to professionals who can be there 24.7/365.=. Continue to visit her regularly, even tho she may appear not to know who you are. It’s important these patients have a sense that someone is caring for them, and it’s important that the staff at the nursing home knows you will be there, not abandoning your mother as so many do.

God bless you for the care you’ve given your mother. Please do something to take care of yourself. You’ve been through, and continue to go through, quite an ordeal.

(I never heard of moving an Alzheimers patient from the Alz unit to the general floor. It’s a progressive disease, no one gets better, so the return to a general unit doesn’t make a lot of sense to me... maybe I’m missing something).


4 posted on 07/29/2015 3:14:18 PM PDT by EDINVA
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Many thoughts and lots of sympathy headed your way...
Why haven’t we been told that this is one of the toughest times of our lives?
With the kids pretty settled and the homestead peaceful, you get hit with care and concern for elderly parents...
That’s why G-d made alcohol....


6 posted on 07/29/2015 3:21:24 PM PDT by matginzac
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I have family members in NH's due to Alzheimer's....

I understand.....

8 posted on 07/29/2015 3:23:52 PM PDT by Osage Orange (What this country needs are more unemployed politicians.)
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Continued prayers for your Mom and you, hondact200. I can only imagine the last four years have been unbelievably trying and difficult at best. I am very happy that some normalcy can re-enter your life. (((Hugs)))


9 posted on 07/29/2015 3:28:09 PM PDT by momtothree
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I’m probably right behind her—there are days when I can tell that my family’s worried about me—and I’m not joking.

The old saying: “LIFES’ A B#TCH—AND THEN YOU DIE” gets more relevant here every day.

I’m sure you have checked the nursing home out very carefully, and will be watching her closely to be sure she’s being properly cared for.

Prayers going up for your mother…….


10 posted on 07/29/2015 3:32:27 PM PDT by basil
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Prayers sent.

It’s a hard choice to make. I had to make it myself in 2005 with my stepdad. But the care he received was far better than anything I could have given him. $4k a month was money well spent IMO.


11 posted on 07/29/2015 4:07:09 PM PDT by JimBianchi11 (The 2A is the cornerstone of our free society. Those that don't support it, oppose it.)
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Prayers for your mother and your family in coping.


12 posted on 07/29/2015 4:10:10 PM PDT by fieldmarshaldj (Resist We Much)
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Can’t be easy for you. Prayers offered for you and your family.


13 posted on 07/29/2015 4:23:43 PM PDT by jch10 (America, destroyed from within.)
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To: hondact200

So sorry to hear that. Stay strong.


14 posted on 07/29/2015 4:33:43 PM PDT by Bluewater2015 (There are no coincidences)
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Prayers.


15 posted on 07/29/2015 4:38:45 PM PDT by Eagles6 ( Valley Forge Redux. If not now, when? If not here, where? If not us then who?)
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I know that was a had decision to make for you and your family. But fr all a right decision. The level of care and 24/7 every second of the day care is beyond most families capacities and abilities. Too not all patients have the same behavioral patterns. My sister for example knew me till the day she died. A patient doing what we called the Thorazine Shuffle could suddenly take off like a track star and be gone. Where I worked at I chased down a lot of patients. That was in the days before secure Memory Care units in most places.


18 posted on 07/29/2015 5:51:39 PM PDT by cva66snipe ((Two Choices left for U.S. One Nation Under GOD or One Nation Under Judgment? Which one say ye?))
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