When my daughter had her sons she wasn’t going to circumcise them because her husband was not circumcised. The problem was even though the doctor told them to just keep pulling the skin back (which they tried) it kept growing over the end and was so tight it hurt him and he bled every time they tried. Finally at 2-3 yrs. she had him circumcised and yes he was hurting terribly for several days. It is best to have it done at birth.
Yes... just like God commands...
I shudder to think of the psychological effects of: a) Mom or Dad repeatedly touching their son's penis to do this; b) the pain associated with another person touching your penis; and c) Mom or Dad hurting you - repeatedly.
Your D-I-L didn't really think this through, did she?
“It’s best to have it done at birth...”
This sounds like two vindictive adults who had a child, broke off their relationship and are now using this poor boy to “up” the other parent. Years back when we were looking into foreign adoption, we asked our pediatrician about circumcision and older children (18 months and above). The practice said if it had not been done by age 1, they would refuse to do it UNLESS there was some sort of medical issue like what you described or numerous UTI’s. The child could make up his own mind and have it done in his later teens (and under anesthesia). Newborns don’t have the same nerve endings as older kids or grown ups. Many newborns literally sleep right through it.