>>>Actually the worst comments and “pity” generally come from other single women. I don’t hang around with them because everything devolves into a disfunctional support group about not meeting anyone.<<<
What do they say? And why do you suppose these women are still single when they obviously don’t want to be single?
“You’ve got to meet someone or you’ll lose friends. They dump you for their man” is my favorite.
“It’s just so hard to meet somebody. Of course you can’t meet anyone.”
“I just don’t understand why someone as cool/pretty/smart/nice as you can’t attract someone.”
Imagine these repeated ad nauseam for hours. Seriously, except for the year I made the New Year’s resolution to “put myself out there” and brought it up myself, the subject never comes up in groups with married women.
Most older single women are that way because they aren’t attracting the man they want to be with. Either the bar is set by weird shallow things(he must make 250K but be home by 5:30 and have washboard abs, but I don’t want him going to the gym because he might flirt), they make choices/exhibit behaviors that put them in a position that men who would commit shy away from, or their lifestyle/career choices limited opportunities for meeting eligible men at a younger age.
I may just may have a little bit of all of these issues ;)