Posted on 05/07/2015 5:36:44 AM PDT by BJ1
For an army of women, Mr Right is simply not there, no matter how hard they look for him. And the reason? When it comes to marriage, men are on strike.
Why? Because the rewards are far less than they used to be, while the cost and dangers it presents are far greater.
‘Ultimately, men know there’s a good chance they’ll lose their friends, their respect, their space, their sex life, their money and — if it all goes wrong — their family,’ says Dr Helen Smith, author of Why Men Are Boycotting Marriage, Fatherhood And The American Dream.
‘They don’t want to enter into a legal contract with someone who could effectively take half their savings, pension and property when the honeymoon period is over.
‘Men aren’t wimping out by staying unmarried or being commitment phobes. They’re being smart.’
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They’re large and in charge!
There are a lot of women out there who are more willing to forgive a man for punching them, than for boring them.
Erin Pizzey set up the first battered women's shelter in England in 1971. Over the years, she had a chance to observe the women who came through her doors, and noticed that they came in two main categories. The first category was women who experienced violence and said "That's it, I'm out of here".
The second category, though, was women who got an adrenaline rush from seeing how far they could push a man. They were addicted to the excitement of chaos. Pizzey wrote a book, available online, Prone to violence about her observations. Feminists worldwide erupted in rage against her.
Is that so? In a wolf pack what would happen to the dominant male's and female's offspring if the male were to die? How about in a pride of lions? Gorillas? Mice? Monkeys? They would be killed by another male and if the female tried to stop it they would also be killed. That is why men, at one time were considered the guardians and females the caregivers.
Regardless, after men were scorned by a prominent feminist as being as useful to women as bicycles were to fish, the game being played was obvious. In order to facilitate an overthrow of the constitutional republic, for whatever utopian fantasy was on sale that week, the most fundamental building block of western civilization had to be destroyed, namely the family. Any religion that supported traditional marriage was mocked and marginalized. They called into question the basis of gender roles despite the biological imperatives and specializations for those roles. They made divorce easy, made abortion on demand not just legal but a sick source of feminist pride, mocked marriage at all turns, made adultery seem like it was perfectly normal and almost mandatory, constantly mocked men as being either sex starved morons, or morons that can't please a woman. Men (and women) have reacted exactly as intended.
Some of those that do get married have completely unrealistic expectations of their mates. They wonder if their marriage was meant to be, why does it take effort? They wait to have children until fertility is on the wane and this behavior, although at fundamental odds with biology, is seen as "right" when having children when our bodies are most ready is considered "wrong". People intelligent and perceptive enough have seen through the charade but some not before marrying someone that hadn't which further embitters both sexes.
The truth is that we need each other more than ever to defeat the real enemy.
Why not? There's an old saying that the ideal woman is one who is "a lady in the parlor and a harlot in the bedroom".
Men don't want sluts, which has traditionally been defined as a woman who is willing to sleep with lots of men, and who doesn't value herself.
Men DO want a woman with a high libido, who is eager to have sex with HER man, wherever, whenever, and in whichever position. If all the woman wants to do is "be his best friend", men have lots of guys to hang out with (and who give him much less drama).
That is an obscenity.
You are putting words in my mouth (or my fingers). How did you infer what you did?
“Lusting after the sluts” means that the fact he is drooling after sexpots implies he will be unreliable and not a good mate. If you know what I mean. Nothing to do with how sexy the wife is. I don’t want a roving man.
Your voluminous prose related to something I did not state, implies sex is indeed all men want.
BTW, being best friends IS very important. At least (realistically), being good friends is very much so.
I do think down deep, maybe only tapped when they actually find one, most men really do want “love”, are romantic and loving when faced with the real prospect, not just sex. Which is NOT love.
Yes, it is so.
Females make the babies and God created mammals (unless you’re a platypus) to PROTECT the fetus best *first-line defense* by containing them inside her body, rather than laying eggs that have to be watched (likely making males more important as many of them do continue NATURALLY to watch over eggs.
Male mammals largely do little with their babies. It’s just the truth - and I think it’s because of the whole body-gestation thing.
Wolves? They are pack animals. The whole pack cares for the dominant litter. They will not all be killed just because 1 male dies. (In fact, look into “guardian” behavior - female dogs tend to naturally be the great guardians, as they are the truly possessive/territorial animals, both from knowing their babies, and picking spots to raise them. They adopt those things as “theirs”, whereas males are more likely to “let it go” - as well as be more aggressive in NON-ownership situations [hence males are preferred for MIL/police patrolling]. Females have something to fight for; males tend to only worry about what females they can access.)
It’s just the truth. Doesn’t mean it’s not better to have a male around to help out. But he doesn’t NATURALLY know which are his babies or anything, while the mother does. She knows what came out of her, as long as it is not taken away.
As far as your human-civilization assertions, I agree with you more than you know.
“Not to say there aren’t short courtships which result in great marriages, but... “
My parents?
Let’s see, basically 5 months from meeting to marrying.
This was after my mother divorced her “SOB bum” of a first husband. But dad was single. They were about 26. Dad took her 2 kids, my (half-)siblings and they took his name apparently only too happily.
But yes, generally 6 mos or less is unwise. ;-)
It is. That was one of two major errors by the Reagan Administration.. signing that infernal legislation into law. The other was Simpson-Mazzoli.
The whole pack cares for the dominant litter. They will not all be killed just because 1 male dies.
That is not so either. If the dominant male wolf dies the next dominant male will kill the litter, and any male offspring of the mating couple old enough to defend itself of will be driven from the pack. The same is true of many mammals...that is simply a fact. Not all mammalian social structures work this way of course, but enough so that saying females are defacto "the guardians" makes a lot less sense than the males are guardians.
OK, last line. Got a bit mixed up. But the truth remains - most male mammals have little to do with their offspring (they do NOT “mate for life”, and not with 1 female). Period. Thus, females - and the FACT that they literally carry their offspring inside for easy *protection*, means THEY are the primary caretakers - including guarding, as they are the ones constantly with the offspring. Females tend to get very aggressive when it comes to their offspring. Males often do not know who their offspring are, and often are not around, period. Females are the defacto guardians for that very reason.
As for the wolves - never ever heard or read such a thing, although I am no biologist. Just incidental avocations.
I see your point, and to a certain extent I agree.
I’m an Air Force brat and my dad was deployed often. My mom kept the house down while he was away, often for months at a time. She was and remains a hero to my sister and me.
Nevertheless, my dad is the one who put his butt on the line and risked death/capture/life threatening injury in service to his country. He earned every dime of his military retirement.
The spouses do their part, and if congress wants to grant them some sort of monetary benefit befitting their sacrifice, fine. But, to take part of the retirement earned by the veteran and give it to any other party is disgusting to me.
That’s how I feel about it.
That’s great. :) It sounds like a happy ending for everybody.
“Wolves? They are pack animals. The whole pack cares for the dominant litter. They will not all be killed just because 1 male dies.”
Yes they will. When the alpha male dies, another male must take over, and in carnivore packs, only the alpha male is allowed to breed. So when a new alpha takes over, the first thing he does is kill all of the young of the previous alpha. The second thing he does is impregnate all the breeding females with HIS offspring (although in wolves there is also the unusual situation of an alpha female, so the alpha male only impregnates her in this case).
“But he doesn’t NATURALLY know which are his babies or anything, while the mother does.”
Also BS, animals can tell their own offspring by pheromones. They don’t need paternity tests like we do.
Socially we now encourage late development into fully formed adults, ready for families and responsibilities.
We encourage young people to run up college debts, without ensuring skills to repay.
Most never serve in the military, unlike previous generations.
I have met some 30 year olds with no steady girl, stuck in an unchallenging career, and listened to their despair of unfulfilled lives.
Wife, children, make for good lives, and vice versa.
LOL you’re very sweet. ;-D
As it was it took me many years to find a compatible man. Once one reaches a certain age, all the possibilities dry up because any good ones are married already. And I didn’t want the baggage of kids from a divorce, either. But, I got my husband anyway with none of that. ;-)
Unusual? There is an alpha male AND female, and sometimes the female is the true monarch.
Are you saying she does not exert her authority and choose her mate, just as the male does when his queen dies?
Again, I am no biologist, but am pretty well read. This is all news to me. That it might happen is not shocking, but normal? I really have my doubts.
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