Well, grandpa’s dementia is not very advanced; he is still VERY HIGHLY functional in many ways. Stroke-induced brain damage has, however, all but totally destroyed his sense of better judgment, his ability to realize implications, and his ability to “get” things by inference. So, unless a scam artist just about comes right out and says, “Hey, I’m just yankin’ yer chain; I’m really a Nigerian scammer,” he’ll probably never pick up on it.
The hardest part, though, is that his remaining high level of functionality leads him to believe he’s FINE, and that he doesn’t NEED to be a legally Protected Person; that the conservatorships of Person and Estate are superfluous legal infringements he can do without. Worse, with the aid of a “girlfriend” he met a month ago online, he’s got enough mobility to get out and talk to various agencies all over and undermine the legal authority of his guardian and conservator.
We’re having a “Come To Jesus” meeting TODAY failing which we may need to have someone arrested for “Undue Influence.” The girlfriend helped gramps close his existing bank accounts, and open new ones, because we were able to watch the activity in the old ones. When he set up the new accounts, under her influence, he made her a signer on those new accounts. She has direct, unfettered access; it’s borderline “Elder Abuse” under CA State Law.
Yeah, so it’s a razzle-dazzle day out West. Your prayers would certainly be appreciated.
Your family will be in my prayers. What a difficult situation. He’s fortunate that he has you looking out for him.
You all most definitely have my prayers.
What an awful situation to watch happening. It sounds VERY close to Elder Abuse, and I would certainly take steps to stop it and try to get the funds back.
That is so sad. I will ask your Guardian Angels to give you strength and wisdom today. You need both. *hug*
You have my prayers.
There was a handyman who did a lot of odd jobs for my wife’s dad at pretty high rates - but my F-I-L is in his right mind, just not the brightest bulb in the drawer.