I dunno whether it was a reorientation or a disorientation, but it sure didn’t get me any closer to the Orient.
The dynamics have changed a bunch for us & the kids, but we’ve a big handful keeping grandpa in line. WAY too much to explain in any detail, here. Suffice to say, if the current impasse over how much personal freedom he’s to have cannot be resolved, he will transition to a public probate conservator, which will mean NO checking accounts, NO credit cards, NO email, NO dating websites, NO internet chat, and NO APPEAL of the situation. Ever. AND, if he doesn’t chill under the imposition of that regime, he’ll be moved to a locked-down facility to keep him in check.
Right now he’s living in a comparative paradise of personal freedom and liberty, and pissing it all away.
Dementia is a rough road.
It sounds like your stresses are incrementally worse over time. I’m sorry to hear that, but perhaps the solution would be to go with all the “NOs” and see that someone else has responsibility for him. It may be kinder for everyone involved.
Dementia and Alzheimer’s are hard for families to understand and deal with. I’ve seen this in action and I know how difficult it is to deal with a parent who is physically OK but mentally is a stranger.
I will pray that you will have peace of mind and insight about his future.
That could be said of all of us...