My take on the catcalling in NYC wasn’t creepy, just that maybe she had a bad experience once, so wasn’t interested in repeating it.
The video in the Mall was harmless, and the women were mostly attractive, so the compliments were harmless.
Otoh, Leftist women over react to everything, and that is why we have the issues with men that aren’t normal anymore, because it’s hard for them to be themselves. Feminism has contributed to the perversion in this country. Most of the time ‘thank you’ is the right answer with a smile, and keep moving...which makes a woman even more attractive.
Catcalls are not sexist unless they are immoral or sexual, and I have never been offended. After years as a Reservist, when I was younger, I do not remember any inappropriate advances, some laughter and all in good fun exchanges. I had more than my share of compliments back then. Perception=Reality I guess, in some female minds.
I received a nice compliment last week from the guy behind the counter when I paid a bill...he was young so the comment was genuine...no other reason to have given it, I wasn’t buying anything. And he was certainly too young to be interested in me. Take all compliments with a grain of salt....some things are just icebreakers in the conversation.
I did have a bad experience a few weeks ago, when meeting one teenage grandson, to hand over a lunch I made for him & friends (his request) at the intersection, where we could each go our own way. Broad Daylight and lots of cars, with great pull over area...seemed harmless.
Before the guys got there, some man crossed the median in his truck ‘illegally’ to get to me, thinking my car was broken down, and I tried to wave him away...it was almost a confrontation, and I surmised he wasn’t right mentally imho. I was shocked and mortified...and decided never to do that type of exchange again. Driving a few extra miles is worth being safer. A need to ‘practice what I preach’.
The shocking part was I have a new car and was holding a cell phone, lots of other cars knew what I was doing, so definitely inappropriate on the guys part. Taught me a lesson about safety in the age of anything goes.
After that confrontation and the trouble I had getting that man to move along, and leave me alone, I see her point.... That could have been on the mind of the girl in NYC catcall video. People do react relative to past experiences we aren’t privy too.
And I see your point as well...considering the ‘well lit’ atmosphere vs a darker street....very different view.
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You must be a very good-looking gal! I agree, saying “thank you” is the thing to do when it’s a nice compliment. (Trouble is, sometimes it starts out that way, but when you say “thank you,” the guy takes it as encouragement and it then becomes creepy!)
Guess we have to take it on a case-by-case basis.