I am going to quit reading the posts on this topic, so many hateful, nasty people. My last one comment...my Dad left my brother, mom, me and our families with a gunshot to his head at the young age of 58. He was NO COWARD! He was a sick man in the end, both mentally and physically. Comments like yours are why families like mine are filled with additional pain and shame after the suicide of a loved one. You don’t know their hearts or their pain when life becomes so unbearable that they feel they have no other options. Seriously, makes me sick....
Sorry, no go. Socrates was right--it's not yours to take. Just because you can, doesn't mean you should.
Your father was probably profoundly depressed, which actually is a form of mental illness, and in his day, treatments may have been scarce or not as effective for this. In addition, if he had physical ailments, the doctors may not have been treating the whole patient, so to speak.
But there are many other people who are not sick and not even really depressed. Those are the ones who write the long, reproachful hate-filled “suicide notes” that the family never mentions.
I’m sorry about your Dad.
I completely agree with you, fwiw.
Try to think about it a bit differently, and maybe these folks won’t bother you so much.
Be happy for them that they have had no direct experience with mental illness, and recognize that they spout nothing but their ignorance. I would not wish up close and personal with mental illness on anyone.
If they knew better, they would not say what they say. I hope they all live the rest of their lives blissfully ignorant.
I can totally understand. Being a person was at that point as an 18 year old, I would certainly not want anyone to think I was a coward. I was very messed up like all the people at that point.
But in defense of the point, being called selfish is what walked me back, because I realized that that type of act does not happen in a void.
This is the type of hard talk that should happen between a therapist and their patient in a controlled environment. Grieving families of a suicide will not want to hear this after the fact.
So very touched by your post, and extending my condolences for your loss.
Having witnessed extreme depression up close, and knowing my point of reference is narrow, I too find it sickening to read comments that are glib and rather idiotic.
It was explained to me this way; for a person suffering RW did, it is akin to never being able to get clear reception on a radio. It’s all static and the brain never gets a rest.
Found that analogy helpful in understanding the tortured pain they may be dealing with, daily.