Cakes are in no way part of the wedding ceremony. By the time you have cake (or cupcakes, or doughnuts, or whatever else is in fashion at the moment), you are entirely married.
If you went home after the ceremony, you’d be 100% married.
This is the exact same thing.
That said, I don’t know pretend to what the answer is. I’m never sure that micromanaging who you will and won’t serve food to is a viable idea for just this reason.
Where do you draw the line?
How far into the private business of customers do you pry?
Is there any value in showing them goodness and kindness?
I don’t know the answers, and I have worked with the pro-life movement for many years.
All I can tell you is that I have never been rude or nasty to anyone and won them over. I have disarmed several anti people by showing myself to be calm and kind. They don’t expect it and never know what to do with it.
“Cakes are in no way part of the wedding ceremony.”
It was hard to get past that first sentence. Of course WEDDING cakes are part of the WEDDING ceremony. The reception is a big part of the ceremony, the opportunity people have to affirm and support a couple that has just married.