As a husband and father, I wouldn't want to know. I would prefer to be blissfully ignorant.
If my wife 'fessed up something like this to me, I just don't think our family could ever recover from the hurt, anger and resentment that would ensue.
“If my wife ‘fessed up something like this to me, I just don’t think our family could ever recover from the hurt, anger and resentment that would ensue. “
My view is that the hurt and anger will be there anyway and likely build.
If the woman is totally broken and remorseful; she should bring the secret out and ask for forgiveness.
If she tries to hold it in, it will cause great issues.
The dad can still love the child as his own; and be a great role model for forgiveness and healing to the kids.
She would be admitting that she cheated on him and that could very well be the end of the marriage.
I agree - the family would never be the same if SHE told so SHE felt less guilty.
I totally agree as long as your wife has remained faithful...
I just don't think our family could ever recover from the hurt, anger and resentment that would ensue.
Some things are simply not worth it...
Coming clean would destroy a marriage, a father daughter relationship and an intact family...
Let her live with her guilt...
You’re right about your family probably not surviving such a revelation, but you’re wrong to think it would survive with you not knowing. The truth is always best.