Imho, confessing to her husband would be a selfish act. This is her problem, and her penance is not making it her husband’s.
My view is that the husband has the right to know and decide if he wants to spend his life with this unfaithful woman, or not.
Cheaters rarely cheat only once. If she isn’t honest enough to ‘fess up, she will likely cheat again. Take Bill Clinton as an example. Her husband deserves better. I would divorce her, but he may be a more forgiving man than I am. The truth is almost always the right thing. She should tell it and let the chips fall where they may. If her husband is truly “Amazing” as she claims, he deserves better than her.
“Imho, confessing to her husband would be a selfish act. This is her problem, and her penance is not making it her husband’s.”
I agree. She needs to take it to the grave.