Posted on 06/08/2014 11:33:25 AM PDT by Rusty0604
He has been broken down! Divorced men understand what it's like to be in a committed relationship within which there are compromises and accommodations. His resistance has already been broken down by another woman so that you don't have to endure the push back yourself.
He uses his words. Divorced men tend to be better communicators. There is a decent chance that he went to therapy during his marriage, if not after, and he has become fairly proficient at communicating needs and feelings more clearly.
He's been broken in! Another thing about divorced men that you might not want to think about but will happily benefit from? They just "get" you. That's because they've been with more women, or at least one woman for an extended period of time, and dealt with more attitudes, moods, issues, and emotions. With experience often comes understanding. In other words, he has already been broken in.
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I believe you're painting with perhaps too broad a brush.
"Stupid" is not the same as "ignorant."
I believe you’re painting with perhaps too broad a brush.
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Wouldn’t be the first time.
Did you really read my comment to mean ‘every divorced man ever?’
I never said I was a victim. But I also do not think I am defective because I am divorced, unlike some on FR.
I certainly do not fall into the folks are defective if they’ve been divorced camp, never have. While I have been married once, for 25 years, I married a divorced woman lo those many years ago.
My issue, that I clearly was unclear in writing about, was that subset of men who play victim for their less than stellar marriage choice. And they do exist.
Again, my comments were in no way directed at all divorced men throughout history.
No, not everyone who is single is without love, but the selfish, self centered attitude of many who wish to stay single these days will rob them of knowing true and lasting love. What a horrible waste, and they aren't even aware of it. Love isn't easy, but nothing, no nothing else is like it nor can take it's rightful place in our lives. Not all the independence and ability to feed one's self with all the self centered toys life can offer can begin to offer human hearts what love can.
Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it: if a man would give all the substance of his house for love, it would utterly be contemned. Song of Solomon 8/7
Agape love is not dependent upon marriage.
Agape love is divine.
Agape love is not dependent upon marriage.
One does not have to be married to practice and experience sacrificial, other centered, agape love, but family is one of the very best places for it to flourish. This is why God instituted the family. To grow loving, whole and productive people for His Kingdom.
Romantic love should not be "earthly" between God's people. The two loves are intertwined.
Marriage should not be "earthly". Marriage is an institution created by God. Agape love should flourish mightily in marriage, as this is God's design. God Himself said that it wasn't good for man to be alone.
If someone is immersed in practicing agape love which take sacrifice, time, energy and resources then they can experience practicing agape love. How many have given their lives over to practicing agape love, which means love that is given without necessarily getting anything on this earth back for the effort. For the average person the family is the best Christian place to learn, experience and practice true love on a personal level. The family should be the garden which real agape love grows and flourishes. From there it can be spread out to others. Usually people who know how to love others first learned love from their loving families.
Many people are broken and mixed up because they didn't receive and learn to truly love from their families as children. Our broken society today is largely due to broken, loveless families that are not putting God first. Conversely how wonderfully people often turn out when they come from stable, loving families. Families are meant to produce loving people who have learned and experienced love from childhood on up.
When people choose not to have families for selfish reasons they are missing out on one of the greatest opportunities of life to give and experience agape love, which then can be poured out on others outside of the family.
Jesus was born into a family of a husband and a wife. He even had siblings. He was brought up in the best soil this world had to offer which is the soil of a loving family. It is God's plan.
Many people stay single not because they want to practice greater agape love as a single person, but because they are too self centered to give up their independence and their resources, which must be done if you are going to marry and have a family. They are not agape loved centered and they may well never know anything except the selfish pursuit of pleasing only their self. You may have not noticed it but many these days are single because they have a self centered mindset and they are loosing life's true pursuit, which is deeply loving and also being deeply loved.
A good marriage should have everything to do with agape love.
I am not slamming marriage. I am very happy for those who have life partners.
I agree with you, that our current society generally is not encouraging family, and that there is blatant self centeredness. There is even a ME Generation.
I’m an ‘ID addict’ myself! It’s my favorite channel.
The only problem is that these shows make me a little paranoid.
I know what you mean about paranoia, but I think a little bit is normal and wise!
I remember my Dad having those detective magazines around, and when I was a teenager, I started reading them. So, I’ve always been interested in the ID show type stuff and I’m hooked on most of the shows — some I can do without.
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