I’ve come to the realization that we all have different qualities and challenges. My older daughter with the high grades is much less happy go lucky and probably couldn’t deal with the challenges younger daughter does. Older daughter was furious when we were ecstatic that younger daughter had a report card that showed she had worked hard. Older daughter was mad that she wasn’t given more credit for her grades being so much higher. I think she’s finally understanding younger daughter works just as hard or harder to achieve what she does.
So there are good lessons for everyone here. I’ve heard kids complain when their parents are complimented on the kids’ achievements. “Good work, Mom!” people say when the kid gets some kind of success. “Hey. I did that. Not my mom.” They don’t say it that rudely, but they do love to get praise and credit for what they do. Not for every little thing but for the more important victories.