Both your answer and the preceding thread are right. Women want to be proposed to because they want the right of refusal and in some cases for the man to come begging for their hand.
Any hesitation on the part of a man to a woman’s proposal would indeed be remembered and used as hammer for years to come.
Women, in general, don’t like to be told they’re wrong, will hold it against you forever if you show them they are wrong, want their way at all times or they will hold it against you forever, expect you to read their minds and contrary to popular belief are the ones who are reluctant to make and sometimes maintain a commitment or to try to work through problems.
Too many take on the view that their husbands are the cash cow/sperm donor and that there is always a better man out there if they are disappointed in any way with their current spouse. They are also frequently assured that they could go it alone because the ex and/or the taxpayer will fund their lifestyle and kids.
I have seen too many guys who were devoted husbands who have either lived through these nightmares or are currently dealing with it. Although some of these things have been issues for me, I have worked through them with my wife of 42 years. She is not perfect and neither am I but we have been able to work through problems and still love each other above all others. I have found out over the years that she is not necessarily the norm based on a large pool of observations.
Have we had bad experiences with women in the past? Please don’t hold it against the rest of the women who are decent.
Women have also had bad experiences with men - but we also (the majority of us) know that not ALL men are cut from the same cloth.