If you're convinced that the Bible must be true no matter what, then you've made a presupposition that makes history and reason secondary.
I will say that I don't respect beliefs simply because people have them, but I can empathize with the philosophical gymnastics you've put yourself through in order to accommodate a religious text, even convincing yourself that your family is irrelevant in the long run and are of no consequence in the afterlife.
I would make a sincere effort to see things differently—such as from the perspective that life should turn out according to my personal expectations and my own subjective view of morality—but I cannot think of a good reason to think life should be like this. Other than for the same reason that I think I should be able to turn straw into gold.
If you are able to think of one, please let me know. If you have the wisdom to think of such a thing, you will probably also have the mental acumen required to state it concisely.