Posted on 04/02/2014 12:32:15 PM PDT by Responsibility2nd
The full quote is “I pushed back on his chest and asked him to stop kissing me aggressively.”
Feel for this girl, but if she really feels she was sexually assaulted, why is she worrying about what HARVARD will do... She should have gone to the police and filed a complaint.
Upon reading the article, I feel for this girl, but by her own admission she complied out of intimidation, not physical force, or even the threat of physical force, which is why her case falls into this gray area.
Of course if this girl was a friend of mine, the “proper channel” method would have been tossed out the window, and me and a few friends would have taught this guy a lesson. I suspect highly he would have moved out on his own when we were done with him.
he didn’t stop though, did he? guys sounds like a real menace.
Don't get drunk and go to a male dorm room. Assuming her version of what happened is true, I don't excuse the guy for his conduct in any way. I agree that No means No and anything after that is an assault.
But, still...girls should not get drunk and be out alone on a college campus. It's about as safe as a girl getting drunk and going alone into a biker's bar. There are certain standards of common sense at work here.
Drama Queen.
If my life depended on moving out of a house, I would. The next minute. Actually, sooner than that, because I'd not take time to write a long screed about how much horrific danger I was in.
Agree with your take.
I am having a hard time trying to figure out who is the author’s assailant, the guy or depression. They seem interwoven.
If she doesnt commit suicide by the end of the year, Ill be amazed.
Are you sure it’s a “she” writing this?
Sounds like PTSD. She needs to get out of there.
If you read her story, she wanted the student she claims raped her to be punished without having to go through the uncomfortable process of filing charges against him.
IOW, she wanted him to be assumed guilty without even a shred of due process. After all, she’s a female accusing (even if only informally) a male. Therefore he should be automatically considered guilty.
I also note it appears she didn’t scream. I’ve never been in a Harvard House, but I’ve worked in a number of dorms, and a scream IS going to be heard outside the room and would presumably bring people running.
She wasn’t asking to switch houses, she was asking that the administration force him to switch houses.
Why would she not just ask to switch herself?
If you weren’t able to pressure or trick someone into sex, my wife and I would never have had any children. And NO I am not always the one doing the pressuring.
It is not rape every time a woman gets drunk, has sex, then regrets it later.
Two, count 'em, two (2) mistakes. Smart enough to get into Harvard, but...
Hard to say he is a menace. He didn’t barge in on her drunk and needing comfort from a friend. It is the exact opposite. She burst into his room.
‘He was a friend of mine and I trusted him. It was a freezing Friday night when I stumbled into his dorm room after too many drinks.’
So a 18 - 22 year old is in his dorm room, a friend of his, who happens to be a female, comes to his room drunk but functioning. She aperantly consented to being kissed and felt up. Once he started kissing aggressively she asked him to stop kissing aggressively. He said you got me excited finish me off and she complied.
Did she stay the night? Did she call for help? Did she scream? Did she say NO? NO she ‘obeyed’. She relented, complied, gave in.
I understand that she was intoxicated, but he didn’t make her drunk. I understand that she felt pressured, but he didn’t stumble into her room.
She doesn’t seem to have reported the ‘assault’ to the police. She told her RA who basically said, ‘sounds like you got what you asked for. I doubt the school will even investigate.’ After that she dropped it. She doesn’t seem to want the ‘perpetrator’ to be thrown into prison or even thrown out of school. She wants to have him moved from one building to another.
The School said SHE COULD MOVE. But that was too disempowering for her. So the school should acquiesce to a students desire to disrupt another student over a completely unverifiable ‘crime’ that wasn’t even reported?
Readers should also note that online commenting has been disabled for this piece in an effort to help protect the author's identity.
Yeah, Crimson disabling its comments is a big step forward in "bringing to light campus-wide conversations on sexual violence and health services at Harvard."
Morons.
The autyhor kept saying that the guy lived in the same “house”
Until the end I thought the author was a guy..
I thought a guy had raped a guy..
and the university had ignored a rape by a homosexual..
then at the end the mystery is solved...
the rapist was a guy but the victim is a female..
OK so why doesnt the female just move to an all female dorm ???
She wants the university to move the rapist apparently they wont..
has she asked to be moved herself ???
why does she insist on staying in the same building she was raped in ???
and why didn’t she write her story in her room instead of staying in the same commons room where he is ??
something doesn’t pass the smell test..
“Conversations,” in this context, means they will lecture us, we will admit guilt and pay them a bunch of money.
True.
But sometimes it is.
Her refusal to accept the school's offer to move to a different House is typical of the angry victim-- reliance on "fairness" when it is self-defeating is a classic victim act. While the school's responses were insipid at best, she had choices to make at points along the way to act in her own best interest and she did not. She appears to have some political contamination, making a public issue of a private misfortune, which is holding her back for recovering.
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