Whenever I am around Asian children, they are very well behaved, stay by their parents side in stores, don’t run around all hyper, they and their parents seem to be very calm....Whereas, you go to Walmart and all I hear are parents screaming at their kids, leave that alone, no you can’t have it, stop it, come here, get over here now or else...It’s just my observation.
That’s true - they are well behaved in public, and we have a lot to learn in some things.
What I see is academic situations where no matter how hard the kid works, it’s never good enough. A- ?? Not good enough. Assumption seems to be that every grade (from 3rd on) is sent directly to Harvard. Kids’ schedules are booked solid to overload with activities, moms are very anxious and controlling about kids’ performances.
With kids born here to immigrant parents, parenting ‘skills’ include - whacking with coathangers, hitting with bats and sticks, striking kids on the back where it won’t show with some sort of bamboo ‘rake.’ These are high-achievement kids in good schools. “That’s how my dad was raised.”
I have also heard from my son, when he was at the local Junior College - ‘The Asian girls want to date (us) white boys; the Asian boys are so totally controlled by their moms that they don’t want to date them.’
Just some other pieces of the puzzle. I believe that a Christian > Buddhist/ Confucian worldview explains a lot of these differences. And the Lotus Eaters are not usually Christian, perhaps?