Hey—you’re the one trying to pin the damning on God.
Imagine that you have a child (possibly you do). Your son is somehow errant. He has committed some “crime” for which he refuses to repent of.
Could you, or any decent parent, take a belt or a stick and whip him endlessly? And then claim he damned himself? That he had a choice but rejected your offer of forgiveness? So he deserved to be beaten hour after hour, day after day? And then call yourself a loving parent?
We put parents like that in prison.