There are multiple pains in various (nefarious?) places when I miss taking my vitamins at the “right” times. One should not miss taking vitamins! Especially if it’s obvious that one’s body needs something that is in them.
Does your dad still know your mom? Or is she just a familiar person to him? I guess, if one loses the recognition part of the brain, the people in one’s life are not necessarily essential.
Still, I feel bad for both your parents; your dad for his loss of memory, and your mom for loss of a husband and friend.
I think Dad recognized Mom as someone he regularly sees. When we walked in and he was sitting in the living room with the other residents, he got up when she waved to him.
It is sad, but there’s always something positive. She really enjoys visiting the Alzeimer’s residence. She knows everyone’s names and talks with them and gives them candy. And she said my brother told her she’s nicer than she used to be. (She said, “I thought I was pretty nice already!” and I assured her she was, but actually, I agree with Russ.)
Having Dad in the care facility makes it like babysitting someone else’s children. It’s much less stressful than having full responsibility.