For the record it didn't "get my back up" I was asking for clarification because your statement could have been taken either way. And please remember that reading another person's mind is against the rules here, which is why I was very specific in my question.
Well my wife and I don't have any natural children, but have had 16 or so foster children and whether they were with us a weekend or several years we did our best to undo the damage that had been done by the natural parents.
Good on you for doing what you could.