“It does not fill a need, just like oxycotton does not fill a need in an addict.”
Oxycontin does provide a need. It provides a high. Addiction doesn’t just happen. Addiction happens because it fills a need in the person’s life that’s not getting met by other things.
Quitting drugs is hard. But, you have to address other things including the desire to use the drugs and their physical dependency. I wouldn’t be surprised to see porn works the same way. However -
There isn’t a natural source for the Oxycontin high that the person is used to so they have to get used to not having Oxycontin. Porn - there is a natural source that would meet many of the desires in sex. Especially sex with his wife.
So why’s he preferring what doesn’t actually fill to something he does? Habit, yes, but I have to wonder if he’s actually having sex with his wife on a regular basis. That to me is the elephant in the room, something we’re not getting here.
What if he wants sex everyday and his wife is good with once a month?
You have the word want and need mixed up. I suspect you need a million bucks and can justify holding up a bank to get it with this logic.
Nobody has a need for oxycotton till they smoke it... once.
Then their life is over. Without the intervention of God, they are all dead men walking.
Blaming this guys giving himself over to his lust on his wife is like blaming hetrosexuals for Homosexuality. It is the same thing, nobody is born homosexual, but anybody can surrender to their evil inclination and become what every that path leads to. Homosexuality, Porn, drug or alcohol or pot addiction. Cutters end up “needing” to slice up their arms with razorblades.
They are not born that way. The spiritual choices you make have consequences just like the phyisical choices you make.
Its called life, consequences come built in. So does justification and excuses, but they in the end have much less effect than consequences.
I know of men who get plenty of sex with a willing wife and still do porn. It's got nothing to do with whether his desires are being fulfilled by his wife or not.
That's simply an excuse and blame shifting and justification for not dealing with it.