Porn is psycologicaly addicting. It does not fill a need, just like oxycotton does not fill a need in an addict, or rat poison fills in need in rats.
The man is addicted, and most likely can no longer get aroused by normal sex any more. Just like an Oxycotton addict, the guy is toast, there is no way out for him without confesson and repentance to God.
But then, I suspect that is the lesson he must learn.
“It does not fill a need, just like oxycotton does not fill a need in an addict.”
Oxycontin does provide a need. It provides a high. Addiction doesn’t just happen. Addiction happens because it fills a need in the person’s life that’s not getting met by other things.
Quitting drugs is hard. But, you have to address other things including the desire to use the drugs and their physical dependency. I wouldn’t be surprised to see porn works the same way. However -
There isn’t a natural source for the Oxycontin high that the person is used to so they have to get used to not having Oxycontin. Porn - there is a natural source that would meet many of the desires in sex. Especially sex with his wife.
So why’s he preferring what doesn’t actually fill to something he does? Habit, yes, but I have to wonder if he’s actually having sex with his wife on a regular basis. That to me is the elephant in the room, something we’re not getting here.
What if he wants sex everyday and his wife is good with once a month?