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Worked with a lot of couples dealing with porn.
Men will ignore warm willing loving women to masturbate to porn.
Porn is easy, and the user controls all aspects.
Relationship is messy and requires give and take.
“Relationship is messy and requires give and take.”
Marriage requires give and take on the part of both husband and wife. So why is it easier for him to use porn than to talk to his wife? There’s serious, serious problems in their marriage that go well beyond the porn and have nothing to do with it.
And some women are not warm and loving and basically drive their husbands to porn.
Not that it then becomes okay for him to indulge, but let’s recognize that some women are not interested in meeting their husband’s sexual needs. Some women are selfish, just like some men are selfish. Or sometimes they have “issues” that make it difficult for them to participate passionately.
1 Cor. 7: 7:1 Now with regard to the issues you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” 2 But because of immoralities, each man should have relations with his own wife and each woman with her own husband. 3 A husband should give to his wife her sexual rights, and likewise a wife to her husband. 4 It is not the wife who has the rights to her own body, but the husband. In the same way, it is not the husband who has the rights to his own body, but the wife. 5 Do not deprive each other, except by mutual agreement for a specified time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then resume your relationship, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
IOW, depriving your partner may lead him into sinning.
Relationship is messy and requires give and take.
The same arguments can be used with polygamy vs. monogamy.