Same question I asked before.
Do you believe that one of the duties that a wife has to her husband is regular sex?
Agree, disagree?
You are not a prosecutor; this is not a cross-examination and I am not a hostile witness or a defendant on trial here; nor are any of the other freepers who are here trying to communicate with you, it seems, in vain.
But for what it's worth, here it is again: both parties are responsible for pleasing each other -- with a regularity that is subject to negotiation and renegotiation as time passes and circumstances change.
When one or both partners is rigid, demanding or engaging in a power struggle instead of being patient, communicative and cooperative, a couple can become polarized and frozen in opposition, blaming, and so forth. Then the justifications for addictions, porn, masturbation or affairs come into play, because the excuses have already begun.
If you do take the time to explore the web site kindly provided by resettozero, you can find some other articles or links, such as the article on the site that is a follow-up to this one, that did provide more of a view of how pastors can help people struggling with this problem. But addiction digs very deep: to expect a single blog post or article to clear up all the tangled web of Satan's tentacles extended through porn may be unrealistic.
This article and thread, to sum up, are limited to one story about a man who has an addiction to self-gratification that have become a crisis threatening the survival of his marriage, and yet he does not want to deal with it. Facing the problem and healing the problem are his responsibility.
Viewing porn is a problem whether you are male or female, married or single, using media or your own imagination. If it is an addiction, and like Louis Foxwell said, not the root but rather an outer layer of a deeper addiction to self-pleasuring, it needs to be confronted as an addiction or an idolatry, and treated aggressively.