Posted on 05/08/2013 8:27:24 AM PDT by BenLurkin
SANTA MONICA (CBSLA.com) — So-called “love contracts” between couples, or written agreements that detail specific promises partners make to each other in a relationship, are growing in popularity, but they may have no legal standing.
Toni Mantus and Gregg Sullivan said they hired an attorney to draft their contract, which breaks down how much time they’ll devote to shared hobbies and how often they will have sex.
“I promise that our date night is gonna be a weekend date and our sex life stays active,” said Toni. “It’s nice to have a contract and say, ‘Look, we did agree to this.’”
Gregg said he even made promises about how much weight he can gain and how many times he’ll visit the gym.
“I do that for myself to be the best man I can be for her,” he said.
Suzanne Pelka, a West Los Angeles sex therapist, said promising sex isn’t always what it’s cracked up to be.
“The more they feel like they’re doing this out of obligation, the less likely they’re going to want to have sex with you and the less good the sex is gonna be,” she said. “It’s really this false sense of control that we have because we don’t know what’s gonna happen tomorrow.”
Attorney Brian Kramer said he often gets requests for couple agreements, but told CBS2’s Suzie Suh that a person can’t regulate another person’s conduct under California law.
“You can regulate property, you can regulate support,” he said.
Suh reported that in the end, a person can’t take the “love contracts” to court if one half of a couple falls short of something they said they would do.
Kramer said, “You can’t do that in a prenuptial agreement and if you want a side agreement between the two of you, that’s fine, but you’re potentially jeopardizing the entire agreement.”
Kathie and Paul Atkins, who have been married for 33 years, said they don’t feel comfortable inking their intimacy.
“I personally wouldn’t want to be held to a piece of paper to make him want to be with me,” said Kathie.
Paul said, “I think if you feel the need to draw up a contract it’s because you haven’t taken the time to earn the other person’s trust.”
My love contract with my wife includes provisions that she won’t put on more than ten pounds and I’ll get one free pass per year to use on a lady of my choosing.
Kathie and Paul Atkins, who have been married for 33 years, said they don’t feel comfortable inking their intimacy.
“I personally wouldn’t want to be held to a piece of paper to make him want to be with me,” said Kathie.
Paul said, “I think if you feel the need to draw up a contract it’s because you haven’t taken the time to earn the other person’s trust.”
I suppose this is a logical refuge for those in intimate relationships which are untethered from traditional moral strictures (i.e., God’s moral laws and His plan for marriage and family).
The last Jim I was in, moved to Florida. - Jason Collins
Lets see...
A man marries a petite long-haired beauty who proceeds to gain 60 pounds and gets her hair cut short (because all her girl-friends tell her “it’s so cute!”), so that he wonders when he married a short fat guy...
...then she bitches and bitches until she divorces him, takes the kids and all his money, and if he is lucky she DOES NOT have him arrested for child abuse (to make a better case for herself in divorce court)...
...And people wonder why marriage is down? And people resort to ‘contracts’?
(Girls- especially all you smart beautiful Freeper girls) I know men do the same thing- leaving you wondering when you married a drunk fat stupid slob)
Bingo!
This sounds like a feminist trick bag. After you get married then you have to negotiate for each others time and affection. If that's the case why get married?
Better yet, just get a hooker.
Do they print them in water proof paper for use in gay bath houses?
...actually, why can’t they just have this as their “marriage” and leave us the hell alone?
Not that you’re bitter.
Reminds me of those chastity promises young girls are badgered to sign.
Duh! "Love Contracts"??? A contract is a legal concept, usually drawn up by a lawyer. It is binding. So, if you fall out of love, does that negate your contract?
Sometimes I just hate the culture that I live in. Here is something that drives me nuts which is a bit off-topic; but, am I the only one, who when listening to people who have "written their own vows", end up thinking that they sound like something a couple of 15 year olds would write?
hence the song, "don't want no short dick man"
When I read this I have to wonder what did they see when they looked at their parents, grandparents or just the people around them. Did they not see any changes in these people and how they got through it in any positive ways at all? I think these types who want a contract for every action that you can imagine have to be extremely selfish and only thinking of themselves. And I got a laugh from reading it.
Future marriages will be conducted in Florist Shops, Godiva Chocolates, or Victoria’s Secret, with any employee functioning as pro-tem Justice of the Peace.
Whatever other customers are present will be given the option
of participating as witnesses to “the Love Contract”.
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