Princeton Mom to All Female Students: ‘Find a Husband’

New York Magazine's The Cut ^ | March 29, 2013 | Maureen O'Connor

[2ndDivisionVet]

In the mid-seventies, Susan A. Patton was among the "200 pioneer women" to join Princeton University's previously all-male student body. As president of her alumni class, she recently attended an Anne-Marie Slaughter–endorsed "Women and Leadership" event that "allowed current undergraduate women to speak informally with older and presumably wiser alumnae." But the "girls" in attendance "glazed over" discussing careerism, she found. So today she wrote an open letter to The Daily Princetonian telling "the daughters I never had" what she wished she'd said:

Forget about having it all, or not having it all, leaning in or leaning out ... Here’s what nobody is telling you: Find a husband on campus before you graduate. Yes, I went there.

Oh no. She continues,

I am the mother of two sons who are both Princetonians. My older son had the good judgment and great fortune to marry a classmate of his, but he could have married anyone. My younger son is a junior and the universe of women he can marry is limitless. Men regularly marry women who are younger, less intelligent, less educated. It’s amazing how forgiving men can be about a woman’s lack of erudition, if she is exceptionally pretty. Smart women can’t (shouldn’t) marry men who aren’t at least their intellectual equal. As Princeton women, we have almost priced ourselves out of the market. Simply put, there is a very limited population of men who are as smart or smarter than we are. And I say again — you will never again be surrounded by this concentration of men who are worthy of you.

Well, this will definitely be awkward for any future non-Princeton girlfriends of that younger son.....

[9YearLurker]

Agreed. Tiger moms are bad enough, but Tiger MIL’s?

[BenLurkin]

"Fly, my pretties, FLY!"

[Seizethecarp]

Ivy League grads who “missed” the opportunity to marry (too) young at or before age 22 can take advantage of post-graduate Ivy League online dating sites for their first or second (or third) marriage such as:

“The Right Stuff”

http://www.rightstuffdating.com/

“Ivy Connect”

https://www.ivyconnect.com/ivydate

[Jack Hammer]

It’s what they intend to do, anyway.

Meanwhile, however, they’d like to waste a little space on the rolls of yet another erstwhile male college that’s gone “modern.”

[MasterGunner01]

Who wants one of these feminist infected Princeton “ladies”? Marrying one is like giving yourself cyanide to cure a tooth ache.

[PapaBear3625]

I am not married and have surpassed the big 40. I wonder why. I have exactly two single female friends over the age of 30 (one is in her 60’s and divorced). I’d rather spend time with my happily married friends or those not desperate for a partner than miserable complaining single women.

It's not too late, if you still have interest in getting married. You just have to be willing to be open to approaches by guys over 50.

[nickcarraway]

I have never heard of a single school that required or solicited IQ test results as part of the admission process.

[PapaBear3625]

I have never heard of a single school that required or solicited IQ test results as part of the admission process.

You know the SAT tests that every high school kid took as part of the college application process?

The SAT test was essentially originally an IQ test (at least it was prior to about 1994). It's been screwed over so much that today that may no longer be the case, but that's what it originally was.