[BykrBayb]

The more I think about your off the wall question, the more I wonder what you would do to an 85 year old parent with dementia, diagnosed with cancer who was at your mercy. Would you starve and dehydrate him/her to death? And call it "mercy."

[lonestar]

You didn't answer my question...but with a question.

I think you and I have a different view of selfishness and abuse.

I said that I would not agree to a feeding tube for somebody I love. To me that would be cruel, inhumane and selfish.

Let's agree not to name each other in a medical POA. :)

My dad was buried 25 years ago today. I had had to make the decision to not put him on life-support.

When an ultrasound showed "somethimg ?" around my mother's liver and the doc called to have more tests, I said that if she had something I didn't want to know until it caused her a problem because I didn't want treatment that was worse than anything she might have...at her age and with dementia.

Pain management was always my first concern with my parents and I have never regreted those decisions. I wouldn't want to be kept alive just to prolong my life. I'm not afraid to die.